What do you do when you are ttc and your dh says he wants to have a child with you but every time your ?

Question

ovulating he doesn't want to bd this is the 6th month that everytime Im ovulating he never want to bd I cant take the emotional stress anymore I want to leave what do you think?

Answer 1

Have you tried to talk to him about this? That is what you should do. Communicate and make sure you are both still on the same page.

Answer 2

Do you think, not telling when you need to have s*x will do it?? I just wouldn't tell him and let him save up all his swimmers the days YOU know you need them. Do you think this would work??

In meaning, maybe he's nervous or something. Maybe also, he don't think he can come through. I not saying lie to him, but kinda, build the anticipation up??

Answer 3

Talk to him - make sure that he is ready.  Also, if he is ready, try enticing him without making it known that it is the BD.  Some men don't like the stigma that comes with having s*x to have a child.  It loses its spontaneity. But definitely talk to him!!

Answer 4

that hes bipolar

Answer 5

Maybe he really doesn't want a baby right now. You need to sit down and have a really long talk about it. Ugh, I know how frustrating this must be for you. I wish you the best of luck hun.  

Answer 6

i would stop trying so hard - i would stop tracking my cycle and just get back to having hot s*x with my man.  Who wants to have s*x when its not for fun and it's a chore?

You need to figure out what time of the day he is the horniest and then jump him!  My man is always up for it in the morning - if i want it then i have to go for it then!

Good luck!

Answer 7

I hate all these abbreviations.  If you're gonna spell out all the other words, why not just spell out whatever "dh" and "bd" is?  I figured that "bd" is "baby dance", but we're all adults here, so let's just say "s*x" as to avoid any confusion.  (Still don't know what "dh" stands for).

Now, my opinion on the matter at hand.  You simply need to sit down and have a talk with this person that you are trying to have a baby with.  If you can't communicate effectively over something like this, you shouldn't be having babies at all at this point and time.  Work on your relationship first.  Babies will come when you're BOTH ready.

**My intentions were not to be rude, they were to make a point.  I'm sorry if you read it in an offensive or demeaning tone.  That was not my intent.  Instead of calling me rude though, you could have simply informed me of what the abbreviations stand for.  Wouldn't that have been more productive?  Also, I'm not "ttc".  I am a parent though, so that's why I enjoy the Pregnancy and Parenting section.  I've experienced all aspects of the process.  I just don't understand the point of using abbreviations.  I just think its best in a forum like this to simply type like you talk so that your question is clear.  I mean, we're not a bunch of teenagers text messaging "lol",  "omg" and "ttyl".  Just my opinion.  I don't expect anyone to agree with it.

**Wow.  Again, I apologize if you thought I was being rude.  No, I had never seen those two abbreviations used before.  Thank you for letting me know what they mean so that I'll know for future reference.  I'm so sorry that I inconvenienced you.  I hope you have a great day though.