I try to be very psychologially, socially, and just generally aware of many things so that I don't fall victim to any....BS that life has to offer; since it has alot to offer.
Unfortunately sometimes I can't escape it. As much as I can escape the world's BS by hiding out at home, sometimes the problems start with my significant other or my family.
My family according to my psych analysis is the "your paycheck defines you" types, they're all about work/business, that kind of stuff, and are just ruthless in getting it, and keep judging me horribly for not being that way, and just are completely different people than me, so when I get all frustrated and start yelling and screaming, they then manipulate and turn that into a "you need help, you need to go to a therapist, you'll end up in jail!" type of a rant, and because of my own frustration with them,...I couldn't win, and worse off, it just irritrated me to the point where, they could take legal action against me.
I actually lost my family. they ended up kicking me out and to this DAY, years later, its for the better, but whenever I haev another problem with anyone in society or even my significant other, their attitude is "its me. I'm not successful enough, I'm not happy enough, I'm not like they wanted me to be, I'm a failure, and I'll just ruin others around me."
I had a fight with my partner, one fight in like the few years we've been living together, and he actually threatened to call the cops on me because of my ranting/yelling, and he ended up calling my parents to tell them, and they basically had this "you see? you SEE?" attitude, like I'm the evil one, and now they basically ganged up against me, to form this "I'm evil, I need help, I'm the loser, and the nutjob" attitude, just because of ONE thing.
My parents are looking for any little thing to validate their beliefs, and my bf doesn't like to change his ways or get questioned.
The truth is, I get angry because of my sensing their character flaws and shortcomings, but they always find ways to make ME out to look like the bad guy.
Bottom line: they want ME to change, etc, and sometimes get nasty towards me, yet they refuse to change and think they're perfect the way they are. (Which isn't true).
How do I win here, assuming that I'm the good guy in all of this? And aside from my ranting/raving when they instigate me, I'm not a bad guy at all. It's like they overlook ALL the good stuff, all the times I take them out to dinner, pay for things, care about them, take them places,.....and concentrate on that one short 20 minute blow up, and think I need to go to Jail or strong psychiatric care.
What should I do about all of this extremism from their part, and how should I go about this, and win, if at all possible?
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