What do you do when you do not receive all wedding response cards back?

Question

My "deadline" for the cards is approx. 10 days and I only have a handful. How do you handle the "non-responders"??

Answer 1

This is a perfect task for your mom and mom-in-law or any relative who has begged you to let them help out with the wedding.  Split up the list of non-responders, then let them be your RSVP enforcers.  They can do all the calling.  I've found that my mom and MIL actually enjoy having an excuse to call the family and catch up on family gossip.

Answer 2

Call them. Your mother calls her friends, your future inlaws call their friends, and your groom calls his friends. You or your maid of honor can call your friends. Don't worry about embarrasing them. You can't embarrass thoughtless people easily.  

Answer 3

call

Answer 4

Wait until a few days after the deadline and go down the list and call all of them.  Hardly anyone sent their response cards back for my wedding.  In fact we only had a handful of people that did.

Answer 5

I would call them or maybe I will call them and say "would you please...." or maybe "don't you receive .... an invitation to go to h**l"  

Answer 6

Depends on how many people are invited.  I've heard of people calling those who didn't respond to get a response.  When my husband and I got married we estimated (somewhere I've read that 2/3 of those you invite attend).  Our estimate was very close to the actual number.  Good Luck!

Answer 7

I would call them myself. Honestly, that's the only thing to do but that's ridiculous that they haven't responded.

Answer 8

my wedding etiquette book says to call everyone who did not respond. that's what i did. i either emailed or called everyone.

but 10 days b efore my deadline, i only had a handful too. for some reaosn, it seemed like the majority of people waited right up to the deadline date before they mailed it back. so you might end up getting most of them if not all of them back within the next 10 days.

Answer 9

wait until a week after the deadline and then you have to start calling people to find out. people do this all the time and it sucks

Answer 10

Call them by phone and ask!!

Answer 11

I'd wait until your deadline's passed and call them...It's the quickest and easiest way to achieve your peace of mind!

Answer 12

call them.  

Answer 13

Don't call them!!!! Ít defeats the purpose. If they don't rsvp, put them down as non attenders.  

Answer 14

2 things- You can call and verify- people do get busy or you can chance it and wonder if they show.  Just make sure you order much more food then expected to be on the safe side.

Answer 15

wait the 10 days. I got most of mine back towards the end, then i called the rest.  

Answer 16

No choice but to call them.  Not sure how much time you alloted, but I helped a couple of brides to do the calling 3 days after the deadline.  

Answer 17

You have ten days.  Don't worry about it yet; lots of people send back their RSVPs right before the deadline.  For those that don't respond before the deadline, you and your fiance will need to contact them.  Telephone will probably be the best way and you just need to ask whether or not they are planning on attending.

Answer 18

Call them.............

Answer 19

You'll receive a "rush" of cards prior to your deadline...For those who don't bother to let you know...don't count them in as part of those who are coming.....If you're trying to do a headcount for caterers only count those who actually returned the RSVP.  

Edit:  Remember, you're the one planning the wedding, you're busy and under no obligation with the additional time involved in "followup" calls.   That's what RSVP cards are for.  

Just basic manners....

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Answer 20

You'll get more closer to the deadline. Wait about a week after the deadline, then call people. Or, if you highly doubt they're coming, like if they live out of state or whatever, then it's probably not necessary to call those people.

With the cards I didn't get back, I just estimated. I had a table for 8 set aside for people who didn't RSVP but showed up. Only 1 person showed up that didn't RSVP, and that's because she wasn't sure if she could make it because of her finals.  

Answer 21

I'm having this happen to me, and it sucks! My response cards were due at the end on July... a handful of people still haven't responded... so, my mother took care of calling family members, I took care of calling my friends, and my future husband took care of calling his friends. It's kind of lame that we had to do it, but I know that some of the people would just have shown up, causing us to not have enough place settings!

Answer 22

Call them

Answer 23

Give the guests a few days after your due date to respond, then begin making phone calls.

Don't start calling until after the date has passed, many people will wait until the last minute to make a decision.