What do you do when you find out the person you love is not the same anymore and your heart is broken?

Question

What do you do when the person you sacrificed everything to be with is not the person you first fell for? When they have changed?

I love this person with all my heart and it is breaking my heart to think he is not as in love with me.

I gambled everything for him. I gave him my heart. Now I feel like my life is ending. I love him so much. I just don't know what to do anymore. Why won't he love me?

Answer 1

Been there done that too.Simply try to get on with your life as best as you can.

Answer 2

im in the same situation :( its hard to move on; did he change? or is he the same minus the love?

Answer 3

Dear Raven Eyes JPA read what u wrote: "I sacrificed everything to be with him... " love is not sacrificing everything!  It makes you sound needy and desperate to hold on to him!

Maybe life is trying to show you this is not the person who deserves you! As painful as it is, he doesn't want to be with you.  Let it go, move on and find the person who makes and brings out the best in you!  Don't settle for pipe dreams make them a reality. Honestly a little time on your own, getting comfortable being single wouldn't hurt.  You need to like yourself and be comfortable alone before you can truly be in a healthy relationship.

Answer 4

i give you all my sympathy. i know how it feels (i've been there recently)

you have to give these things time to heal (i know it feels like a never-ending pit of despair at the moment but it does start to get better).

are you still with him? If so you need to try to agree on what would be the most sensible option for both of you.

If not, spending time with your friends tends to cheer you up (it did for me)

Answer 5

You have to ask him that.  You have to know why he's falling out of love.  You have to communicate and find out if there is hope in this relationship.

Whatever you do, don't act like a failure.  Respect yourself with pride and dignity and let him know that you love him so much, but you cannot be treated this way.  You have needs and wants too and you cannot wonder or worry about the man you're with.  You have to know everything, because you also have to make a decision.  You have to be strong, confident and in total control.  Men hate the woman that's weak, insecure and totally waiting for him to make all the decisions.  He looks like the failure, not you.  Well you have to let him know that!

Stand tall with your chin up and your arms folded and confront him.  If he doesn't love you and wants nothing to do with you, then it will be difficult, but say;  then get the h**l out of here.  You know how I feel about you.

Whether he leaves, or not, that is when the truth will come out.  That's when he might realize that he made a major mistake and come back to you crying on his knees.   That is when he'll love and respect you.  I do hate to say that is also when he might realize that he doesn't love you and the relationship is over.  It is part of life.

I wish you all the luck.  Just stay in control.  

Answer 6

just feel the pain, when you are in pain, don't fight it. You'll just get exhausted, feel the pain until it hurts no more... then move on...

You deserve a better man and be happy you will be free when he comes.  

Answer 7

He's materialistic..  Hope your not married to him.

However this experience has taught you to become a strong individual. Move ahead in life and try to avoid making the same mistakes again !! Good Luck !!!