What do you do when you friend was abused and wants help?? How do I help? Help please!

Question

My friend was abused we she was little by some guy (she did want to say his name). She has not anyone but me. This is my best friend like a sister she is now 15 and we it happened it when she was 7-8. She dose not know what to do. She started getting nightmares about this when she was 13. When she was 14 I saw that she was getting depressed. I never knew why but that did not stop me from to help her. That is all so when I saw that she was cutting. The thing was when we were with her parents they did not see anything she acted happy when she was with them. She is not so depressed now and if she is she is hiding it from me. She spend the night at my house and I had to wake her up because she was crying and screaming in her sleep. I love this girl I don’t know what to tell her. I want her to get help. She is scared to tell her mom and dad. I asked her if she knew what was happing when she was little she said “no”. she also said the guy that did this dose not live around her anymore. I want to help her. I just don’t know how. What should I do?

Answer 1

the only thing you can do it support her. If she won't talk to her parents, then reccomend that she speaks to a counselor, or another adult she trusts. Sounds to me that she needs the help at this point, and if she refuses, then you can call kids help phone, or a similar number, and talk to someone about it yourself, and see what you can do.

Answer 2

I was abused when I was ten and now I'm 17.  I didn't say anything until a year ago.  I started cutting too.  The one thing that help me was that my sister found out and told my mom.  At the time I didn't like it but it was the best thing that eer happened to me.  I went to a threapist and the to a treatment center to get better.  For the first time in years I feel alive.  You can't help her.  As much as you want to you just can't.  Your to close.  You need to get her into therapy and you need to be the good frined and tell.  If you just let her keep going like this you aren't being a friend at all.  Freinds make sure that there friends are safe.  And the only way to do that it telling.  I hope this helps.

Answer 3

you can't help her, you are not trained to do so.  what you can do, is tell her to seek counselling.

Answer 4

You should tell her to tell her parents or you tell her parents so that she can get help because she will need counseling to deal with this because only a licensed professional can help her.