What do you do when you just want your friends to leave you alone?

Question

I am getting so annoyed at friends wanting me to do stuff with them and then taking the huff with me when i say that I am going trhough a tough time. They don't understand mental health issues. I try to be honest with them but they keep forcing themselves upon me and i just want them to leave me alone!! any advice?

i know i probably sound mean but i am trying to deal with a lot right now and they won't take no for an answer, especially one ofthem!

thankx

Answer 1

I completely understand.  I love people, but there are times when I just want to be by myself.  I feel like other people stress me and I feel like they do not understand how I am feeling and make me worse.

You are not being mean at all.  I just tell people that I need some time to myself and then do not answer the phone or door.

Answer 2

I have this problem sometimes.Tell them to fluck of.

Answer 3

That happens quite often with me. I normally just tell them I'm not feeling well/tired/busy.  

Answer 4

I understand the feeling.  That's happened to me before.  Your friends are just being your friends.  You don't sound mean.  If you have good friends, they'll know how to keep a safe distance while keeping a watchful eye on you while you're going through this rough patch.

If they just left you alone without any kind of resistance, they might not be such great friends.  That's my 2 cents.  Take it easy.

Answer 5

you dont owe anyone else your presence when youre depressed.  Thats like poking at a dying bird w/ a stick telling him to fly for you.  You would understand if youre friend felt how you do and vice-versa right?

Just take some you time and dont feel guilty about it.

Your friends would feel the same in your situation.

Answer 6

Stop washing. They will soon leave you alone

Answer 7

I don't think you sound mean at all - you need some space - just say that to your friends - tell them "I know it's hard for you to understand but I'm going through a tough time and I get really overwhelmed if my need for some space isn't respected. Thanks for understanding." If you want them to totally leave you alone and you'll call them when you are ready then tell them that. If they get all huffy about it - too bad, you have to do what you have to do to get yourself straightened out.

Answer 8

i agree with zabes

Answer 9

Honesty is usually the best policy.

Any time I want some space or "me time" or whatever I tell everyone who calls etc. exactly how I feel and remind them that if they are real friends, they,ll respect my wishes.

After that the phones switched off and I disappear for as long as it takes.