What do you do when you realize your family doesn't care about you?

Question

I've finally realized that my family doesn't care about me. There has always been a lack of respect and favoritism, but I somehow always thought that there would be something I could do to win their approval, and I've finally realized that's never going to happen. It's weird because i had always been able to convince myself that they love me at least in spite of everything else. I don't think that's true. I know I should move out to a healthier situation. I just don't know where to go

Answer 1

Think about what made you come to this realization.  I think that in the heat of the moment things seem really really bad.  I can recall feeling the same way when i was living at home.  My parents are overbearing and selfish, but there was nowhere else to go...so i got married.  If you have no other options i would suggest you find other methods of self fulfillment beside validation from your family because if you go to a really low income area or get involved in anything you can't get out of you could compromise the rest of your life.  They don't matter enough to do that.

Answer 2

Go somewhere, anywhere.  Accept it, if you truly believe that they don't love you.  Sometimes you can't get their approval because maybe they are dysfunctional and don't even approve of or love themselves.  Let them work out their own issues without you to take it out on.  Maybe when you're not there they'll realize they need help.  Make your own family with friends and others who truly do love you.  Family is what you make it and who you choose.  That is what I think.  

Answer 3

You are approval addicted and should start practicing meothods to please yourself, one help would be to say outloud god loves me unconditionally and he is pleased with me. Ofcorse you should also say outloud that your family does still love you.

Answer 4

i know how you feel. today was my first day of college and my dad didnt even say good luck or anything, he didnt even ask me how it was when i came home tonight. life just sucks sometimes, i just want to move away from everything but its just not possible, just hang in there like i do i guess, things will get better someday..