What do you do when your b/f won't start anything in the bedroom?

Question

No matter how hard I try, my b/f WILL NOT start anything in the bedroom when we go to bed. He used to be the initiator in the beginning but now he acts like, oh well i have her now so what. I mean when I start it he's all for it (at least I think he is, he gets into it anyways), i've even discussed it with him but it always comes back to how his ex treated him, I"M NOT HIS EX, they haven't been together for several yrs so as far as i'm concerned that's no excuse. I don't think he really realizes how it hurts me when he won't try something even though I have discussed it with him. I'm just tired of feeling like I'm the only one in this relationship. I don't doubt that he loves me but I need him to show me once in awhile on his own not by me starting everything. How can I get him to do this?

Feeling Unwanted

Answer 1

try dressin in some s**y *** clothes  

Answer 2

see a film, listem a music, have a good talk, or flirt him, or wait

Answer 3

Continue being honest with him.

Maybe it has nothing to do with you, and he is self conscious about something that happened to him recently. He might not even know it. Try complimenting him, and being flirtatious even if it feels silly!

Tell him to stop comparing you to his ex, you don't deserve it.

If you have been together for a while, maybe he is losing interest?

Hopefully that is not the case.

Maybe you need to spice things up in the bedroom a bit? :)

If not, maybe the an option would be to wait (hold out?) until he can't take it anymore and is forced to initiate the process and make a move on his own! Doing it once could bring him back into the swing of things.

Answer 4

First of all ... U R  Saying that he is your BF so this means you are not married and with out marriage s*x is not good. I hope one day everyone should understand this.

any way I will suggest this to the married ladies (only)

If he's not doing any thing .... you should do..

if he feels that you always want it..... why dont you give him a break (till he wants it).

No man can live without it You'll have to wait for some days only. Let him come to you. and ask you .

Answer 5

don't do anything to home for a week or two...he'll come around...either that or he's sleeping with someone else

Answer 6

Don't initiate anything with him, no matter how long it takes.  This is a game of control.  He'll eventually come to you.

Answer 7

Dont do anything! Trust me that would work

try to make him want you more.

Answer 8

Stop initiating and see what happens...he will eventually react

Answer 9

I tell him. I tell him straight out; I NEED ROMANCE. Not all the time, but occasionally I'd sure appreciate you going out of your way to make me feel loved & desired.

He does....but men need us to spell it out.