What do you do when your friend keeps insulting you?

Question

She doesn't mean anything by it I'm sure, but it's still offensive. Should I say something? I don't want to quit hanging out with her.

Answer 1

I used to have a friend do the same thing the best thing is to ask her why do you keep insulting me or just confront her and ask her to stop because everyone wants a friend to tell them the truth! if not you might crack and yell at her or insult her and start a fight!

i hope i helped!

Answer 2

Tell her what she is doing.

Answer 3

If you do not want to call her on it immediately,ask her to repeat what she said(say i didn't hear you,what did you say)when she says something hurt-full and she might catch it herself.Or the next time she says something,tell her that you know she doesn't mean it the way she sounded BUT when she says something like that it kinda hurts your feelings.

Answer 4

The next time she says something you find offensive or insulting, ask her, 'Do you, really, mean to say that?'.  When she asks what you mean (?) repeat it to her and say, 'So - I'm curious to know if you, really, meant that'.  If she says, No then tell her you want to get to the root cause of her saying it (so floor is open for discussion).  If she says, Yes - ask her same as for No and then ask how she would feel if it was said to her.  The only way to solve an issue such as this is by discussion and, perhaps, the reminder that Jesus said we are to love our neighbors as much as we love ourselves.  So - ask her if it appears the motivation behind what she said is coming from love or from something else (jealousy, envy, or a need to control you or the situation?).  

Answer 5

How about..."Wow! You say things like that. What do you say to your enemies?.....

or, OUCH...What's that supposed to mean?

or, OUch...where'd that come from?

or DANG!  Tell me how you really feel.

If she still doesn't get the hint then drop her. Why do you want a friend like that. Before you drop her though try to give her the hint because you may be a blessing and the only person who has pointed it out to her. Good luck.

Answer 6

Yeah, you should probably tell her she's being insulting––she might not even realize she's doing it.  Bring it to her attention politely and don't get all bent out of shape.  If she starts arguing with you, don't get defensive.  Just be cool and tell her calmly to cut it out because it's rude and annoying.

Answer 7

you might have to be kinda abrupt and tell her to cut it out, she won't take you seriously though unless you mean it.

after that she'll probably knock it off

Answer 8

If she's a true friend, tell her that you think it's offensive and that you want her to stop, and she'll listen. She should respect your wish.

Answer 9

tell him or her what they are doing and if they dont stop then you will not be able to be friends anymore

or laugh with them:)