What do you do when your husbands mother don't invite us to family trips?

Question

We are never invited to family outings (camping,BB Q's, etc..) We have two boys one with my husband.It was a time when she wanted to invite her blood grandson and not my son to a kids party we told her they should invite both not one. What is your take on this? I believe it's her lost that she is missing out on their childhood years. Thanks

Answer 1

BE HAPPY............. THAT YOUR NOT INCLUDED...........BE EXTREMELY HAPPY..............  DON'T INVITE HER.  DON'T ASK HER OVER FOR ANYTHING..........M.I.L.  SUCK!

Answer 2

eventually your kids will do different things with friends and it will not hurt them in any way. age might matter but regardless, she should be able to invite whomever she wants and you would be able to let one child go if he wants to and find some activity for the other child to enjoy .

Answer 3

Hopefully your husband has spoken with his mother in regards to this. Sometimes mothers can be a pain in the ***. Sounds like your mother in law is like that. Its really her loss if you guys both have agreed to raise the boys equal and then the family should respect that or do what there doing. Not get involved. Its there loss and it does hurt the boys and probably your husband as well. But you can't change some people and they will have the misery of never really knowing there grand kids. To bad on her part.

Answer 4

Just ignore her and act like she doesn't even exists.  She's the one whose going to regret it later, not you.

Answer 5

thats a S****y mom. you tell her that she WILL treat them equally or she will NOT get to see either one of them. letting someone treat one better than the other will mMAJORLY s***w your child up, dont let it happen, its no better than abuse. and you should tell her that "listen lady, im not going to let you ABUSE my son by treaking my other son better, its no better than child abuse and it isnt going to happen, they are treated equal or your not touching them" anything less than that from you is bad mothering, good luck

Answer 6

Sounds like she made her choice.  She's one of those "it's my way or the highway" people.  It is her loss of course.  Fill the gap with some other older couple who might really get a kick out of being nonnie and poppy.

Answer 7

If shes like that I would be thankful shes not inviting you. I have a crazy in law and she invites us to EVERYTHING.. and just loooooves to come here and stay every time my fiance has a day off. Be thankful.

Answer 8

I agree.

Answer 9

Sit down and discuss this  between the 3 of you - mother, husband and yourself.