What do you do when your kids disobey your rules?

Question

What do you do when your kids disobey your rules?

Answer 1

They know what they did and if they didnt we would explain to them the rights and wrong... if they did know the rules and intentionally broke them it is being grounded for a time of one week to one month with no tv, no video games and no toys... if it is a big rule they broke then it is all that and a early bedtime of 6pm for the entire grounding...

Answer 2

Lay down the LAW!!

Answer 3

my 4 y/o gets spanked. usually 5-10. on her bottom. then she gets sent to the time out corner.

Answer 4

Get a belt or spatula and spank them only on the butt cause otherwise its child abuse.

Answer 5

First, explain to them what they did wrong, so they understand why they are about to get punished.

Then deny them something they like for a period of time, for example, no video games for two days.  Or let them choose their own punishment(they will often choose a harsher penalty than what you would have given), etc.  

Just find something that works.

And make sure the punishment ALWAYS fits the "crime".

Just because a parent has the power to do something terrible  to them(out of frustration), doesn't mean they should.

Believe it or not, kids like rules, limits, and boundaries. It makes them feel safer and secure. They will often test those limits just to see what they can get away with however.

And if they are teenagers, I would say it's normal for them to disobey.  Part of the maturation process is seeking ones own independence.  You wouldn't want to let your teen know that, but you can take comfort in the fact that they are growing up by seeking to make their own choices.  The teen years are the toughest, but just get them through it!  (And ignore their insults toward you).  Do the right thing, no matter how they react toward you. Later in their life they will know you were correct, and they will appreciate you for looking out for them :)

I promise, when they get into their twenties and thirties they will come back to you, if you do your job correctly.

And always balance your discipline with plenty of love and encouragement throughout their precious lives :)

Answer 6

I spank the tire out of them. If their your kids your supposed to make the mind and your the boss. What you say goes. If they

dont then I would show them whos boss and it isnt child abuss if you hit then on the arm with a spoon or something. Thats how the people in the old days did. Hope this helps. It helped me.

Answer 7

Help them understand the consequence of their choice.  Help them to make amends where needed.  Help them to learn from their mistake.  Help them to figure out why they made a bad choice & how to avoid doing it in the future.  

We don't really have rules, though.   They're more like principles - Be polite, be safe, be healthy.

Answer 8

Take away a priviledge and impose a consequence.  The priviledge is usually something they really like and it goes bye-bye for a significant time until the kid can earn back  your trust.  Then put the kid to work.  I am sure that there is always a wall or cupboard that needs to washed.  Or some other task that you need help with.

Answer 9

They have to sit 5 minutes in the naughty chair

Answer 10

Spank the c**p out of them. o_o nobody disobeys my rules.

Answer 11

tie them to the bumper

Sorry, am a little frustrated w/ Yahoo's coffee breaks.  Where was I?  Oh yes; well it depends on the rule.  I don't have a ton of them, but I expect them to be followed.  What I found works even better than punishment (at least w/ my kids) is to humble them.  Kids hate feeling bad about themselves, and most of them dont want their parents to be disappointed in them.  Like if I say to my 6 year old, "You need to leave the room, I dont want to be with you right now," following bad behavior, in a sad and disappointed tone, it often has more of an effect than if I took away a privlege.  More importantly, the bad behavior doesn't repeat itself.

I also allow my children to question me (something that was not an option when I was growing up).  Not in a defiant way, nor just for the sake of further insisting upon what they want.  What I mean is, if you dont understand a decision, it's okay to ask me about it.  Kids aren't born knowing why they have to have a bedtime, why it's a bad idea to draw on the walls, and what the big deal about broccoli is.  

Every once in a while, it'll even cause me to rethink a decision.  And what's wrong w/ that?  Just because I can have the last word in any discussion, doesn't mean I always should.  I've said more than once, "Well I guess there's no reason why you can't go outside, other than you had a tub already and I dont want to deal with muddy feet" which is what I could've said in the first place instead of barring out NO.  There's plenty I can learn from my kids.  It doesn't cause them to lose respect for me nor does it make me a pushover.  Believe me, there is no confusion about who is the boss at my house.  

This type of dialogue also makes me as a parent more approachable down the line, as they become older and hesitate to ask about boys, drugs or peer pressure.

Answer 12

Although I am not a father, I am a Scout Leader.

When a group of my kids on a week long camp really ticked me off, I made them stand close enough to a tree so their noses touched and left them there for an hour.

They learned and so did the rest of the troop who saw.  Don't make me angry.

Answer 13

depending on what was done I usually do timeout or take away toys but if it's really serious a spanking

Answer 14

first they get a talkin too,,,,grounded,,sent to their rooms, etc.  i AM the mother and MY rules are the LAW.  there is no discussion and there is NO explaining it.  what I say goes.