What do you do when your mother-in-law is trying (with relentless) effort to break up you and your fiance?

Question

What do you do when your mother-in-law is trying (with relentless) effort to break up you and your fiance?

Answer 1

If he is your finance then she is not your mother-in-law yet. Do you really think getting married will change things? NOT

Talk to the intended about this and see what they think would be the best course of action.

Tread cautiously because divorce is more expensive than a break-up now both emotionally and financially.

Lisa

Answer 2

Talk to your fiance.  If he loves you he will stick up to his mother and tell her to stop.

Answer 3

I'm in the middle of a similar situation...talk to your fiance let him know what u think-be careful it's his mom.  Let her know your view on how she's trying to break u guys up.....Let him know that u are going to speak to his mother about it. You have to clear this up before it goes any furthur. If you do not clear it up it will eventually come between u and your fiance. Remember, she may not respond to you in the way u want her to. that's ok at least you are letting her know that u are aware of what's going on.

Answer 4

I would say nothing to her and ask my fiance what is the issue she has with you?  It's up to him to resolve the problem and put a stop to her behavior.  Either he steps up to the plate now as once you are married he will do less.  

Answer 5

There is a reason she doesn't want you to marry.If you have dated less than a yr, that is a GOOD reason.

I am assuming you mean your FUTURE mother in law?

If you are over 18 and do not work or have been in and out of bad relationships maybe have a kid from one of them, that is another reason.

I do no know here reason.Could be she thinks her son is a bum and that you are too god for him.

Have you ASKED her WHY she doesn't want you to marry her son?

Chances are she MIGHT have some valid opoints.Listen to her.

Answer 6

It's hard to give you specific advice without knowing specific details, but I would say to sever ties with your mother in-law (if that's a realistic possibility). Or at least try to avoid her as much as possible.  

Answer 7

Your husband and his mother are quite right to try and break you up with your fiance.  It is illegal to have a fiance if you are already married.  If you go ahead and marry your fiance you will have two mother in laws, and they will be jealous of one another.

Answer 8

You can't refer to her as mother-in-law until you are married.

If she is trying so hard ask why, take her out to a lunchen and ask her what did you do in particular to anger and hate you so very much and that whatever it is you are very sorry for.  That you love her son, and because its from her upbringing and respect she has taught him to be so loving and kind to his future wife. Get it, make her feel its because of her input and making him into the man he is that you love him so very much and am greatful to her for what a wonderful job she has done.  Brownie points!!!

Answer 9

make your fiance realise it and take a stand, basicaly saying either you stop this behaviour or you dont need to call around mom