What do you guy's think?

Question

My 2 year old son is very busy all the time he also throws things at me including my coffee table which is about 10lbs he can pick up one side of it and throw it over,well anyway his dad and I took him to a behavioral specialist today to evaluate his behavior,well the first thing he suggests working on is his anger of hitting me kicking and so on..So he say's in his opinion we need to tell him very firmly YOU DON'T HIT,now do you want to walk to time out or do you want me to carry you? so then carry him to a room that is empty where he can't get hurt and stand there for 2 minutes with the door shut on him in the room and if he's not quiet for at least 5 seconds he has to stay longer then the 2 minutes,my question is do you think locking a 2yr old in a bedroom for 2 minutes and then when he comes out not to even bring up why he was in there just go on about the day and if he does it again repeat the process,do you think that is a good suggestion coming from a specialist?

Answer 1

I think its a good way for him to calm down, but as they do on supernanny, afterwards I think you should get down to eye level and asked him if her knows why he was in there.

Answer 2

I think it's good for him to go to time out.  However, it is very important for him to understand WHY he was in timeout.  a two year old's brain isn't developed to the point that they can, unaided, connect the misbehavior with the consequence.  You need to talk to him, or his anger will get worse because he won't understand why he's getting punished.

Answer 3

Obviously, you need to let him know why he was being punished.  The thing is, you have to say it in a way that a two year old would understand.  Ex. "It makes mommy very sad when you hit me.  EVERY time you hit mommy you will have to go to time out.  Mommy still loves you, but you MUST NOT HIT."  (End in a stern voice.  If you don't sound serious, he won't take you seriously.)  The key is to be consistent.  You must immediately administer the punishment each time..... and don't feel guilty about it!  Children feel safe when they know the guidlines, and that they WILL be punished if they cross them!  All that said, hang in there.  It's tough raising a two year old. :)

Answer 4

personally no. you should explain to your two year old why he was in time out in the first place.

Answer 5

it is not right you need to have him in your view so you can tell him. i always did the time out in a corner while i watch tv when he trys to turn you scold him not to look at tv , or if he is doing something wrong take away what he has an it is time out after awhile you wont have to tell him time out he will do it himself, hold yourself to the time out start with 2minutes then go up a minute in the same day it will take awhile at least a week for him to know what time out means. good luck ps i have two girls 7 an 10