What do you make of this story?

Question

http://news.aol.com/story/_a/adoptee-sues-parents-for-kidnapping/20080219193809990001?ncid=NWS00010000000001

Answer 1

I found it terribly confusing.  Maybe I need another cup of coffee.

But she uses her "real" father's last name.  What happened to her real mother and father?  How did she find out she was abducted-adopted?  When did she find out?

Too many latino names for me to figure out who is who and what is what.

Heading for the coffee pot now....

Answer 2

Good for her.  Thousands of children were kidnapped in Argentina, the children of murdered detainees during the country's last military dictatorship.

The Grandmothers of the Plaza de Mayo are the wonderful people we can thank for the United Nations Treaty on the Rights of the Child as a direct result of this atrocity (not that the USA has ratified that Treaty either - typical)

Answer 3

that's interesing, but they did bring her up as their own and if they treated her well then she shouldnt be so miserable.

Answer 4

Woah, if I were her, I would sue too! It seems like her whole life has been a lie. whether she wins or not is a different story, she may not, but she has every right to be mad!

Answer 5

I can understand all sides of it - of course she was upset that she was taken (not given up) from her mother, and these people likely knew how the kidnapping had occurred.  Just imagine being that desperate for a child though.  It's a terribly tragic situation that has no right or wrong solution - no matter what, someone is going to be hurt.  the "adoptive" parents probably loved her and raised her as their own, and feel betrayed by their "daughter."  the daughter is probably going through an immensely difficult time, having to turn against the only parents she's known.  While it would be easier for her to get to know her biological familiy in private, she is sacrificing that luxury to make sure her story (and that of many others) is heard.

Answer 6

I applaude this woman.  I don't feel the least bit sorry for the "adoptive" parents.  Chances are, they were in on everything.  You know her real mother was only kept alive long enough to give birth and then killed.  Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out.  They were connected to these attrocities and just as liable as the ones that actually killed her real parents.  Any adoptee should be able to sue their adoptive parents and any agency involved upon the discovery of a fraudulant or black market adoption.

Answer 7

I think that most people in this forum have no clue as to the history behind the Argentine period of "The Disappeared", and therefore won't be able to have an intelligent opinion on this article.

During this period, people seen as dissenters to the dictatorship's rule were kidnapped, tortured and killed.  There are thousands that were never heard from again.  Sometimes children of "The Disappeared" were placed into adoption with families of military officers or other government officials.  This woman in making a political statement with her lawsuit, with good reason.  It was a period of horrible atrocities committed by a corrupt and violent dictatorship and those people should be made to pay for what they did.

I hope she wins.

Answer 8

Meh. I suppose the courts will decide if she's doing the right thing. They musn't have been very good parents to her if she wants to take this kind of action against them.

Answer 9

that is interesting.... its kinda weird she would do that...

Answer 10

I think its absolutely fair. If that happened in the United States, the people would be charged for abduction. These people, however good their intentions, can not take a child without going through the proper, legal channels of adoption. These parents need to be brought to justice. I don't know what  adoptive child will regain seeking monetary restitution. It is a fair and just claim on her part.

Answer 11

Her poor parents.  I can't even imagine what it would be like to have my baby stolen.

Answer 12

The girl was KIDNAPPED for crying out loud.  If someone is kidnapped, no matter how s/he is treated by those with whom s/he lives after the abduction, no one denies it is wrong and that the person is a victim of KIDNAPPING.  But, here we have people who think the girl shouldn't consider this a problem because we throw the word "adoption" into the mix.  

In the early 1970's, young Steven Stayner was kidnapped by Kenneth Parnell.  Mr. Parnell renamed Steven and told him he was now his son.  He told everyone Steven was his son.  Like the above situation, the "adoption" was fraudulent.  Mr. Parnell was convicted of kidnapping and Steven returned to his real parents after 6 years.  

Why should this woman's situation be seen any differently?  Because someone may feel sorry for the "adoptive" parents?  What about the girl and her parents?  Their feelings don't count as much?  Kidnapping is kidnapping.

Answer 13

I don't see enough information one way or another, honestly.  I feel very sorry for her, having been stripped from a natural birth right in such a terrible way.  Maybe I misread it, but I didn't read anything saying whether this was a choice of her adoptive parents.  It said that these children were given to military and political families to raise, and to me it sounds like this was in lieu of having the children raised in this torturous environment.  Admittedly, I'm no history buff either, so the missing information might be elsewhere.

I do think, however, that whether it's right or wrong for her to sue them, it was probably a difficult decision.  I'd like to know what got her to look for it, though.  I mean, does a girl being raised in a loving environment suddenly one day say "Hmm, I wonder if I was an illegally adopted child"?  Or was this just the usual search for her true parents that went wrong (or went right)?

This is a story that I would like more information on, hear the stories all around, and more than just the technical facts.  I know that I'd like to know if her adoptive parents regret it, or if it started as a "following orders" sort of thing, or what.

Answer 14

I think it is definantly mesed up. WOW that poor girl.

Answer 15

Well, if the parents were in on the kidnapping and torture or at least knew about it of her parents. Then they are accessory after the fact. Not all adoptive parents go about snatching little babies or children, but in countries like this sadly this type of coercion or abductions do happen.

Answer 16

I think this case is a great success for her and other kidnapped and illegally adopted Argentinian adoptees. Not only that but the Grandmothers plaza de mayo are in my opinion heros, honorable people. They never let their families identities die, let alone their spirits, they never gave up, they always kept looking for them.

BB_church has a YouTube Video on them that he made I think last year....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RPJX3B66...

I'm happy shes suing, and has found her roots. It doesn't matter how much love you've been given if your adoption was done upon scandal, it must be brought to justice.

She has every right to do this and I commend her. I applaud her!!! This is a terrible terrible tradgedy.

May those old men be brought to justice and punished for the murder, terror and corruption they inflicted on the families and children of Argentina.

Answer 17

it's alright i guess

Answer 18

Good for her for suing. I cannot even imagine what she must have been through -- finding out that the people that raised her not only knowingly falsified her birth documents and lied to her about her identity (and they apparently lied repeatedly and told several different stories to her as she was growing up--see below) -- but also that they almost certainly knew that her real parents had been tortured and killed -- and were probably in on the plot to keep her mother alive just long enough to give birth. What awful, awful people! I'm sorry, even if they were the best parents in the world (which they were not), NO amount of loving parenting could possibly make up for having gotten her by having her parents killed.