What do you mean for "high maintenance" women?

Question

...and why do you men hate them? Why are you men so afraid of bright and assertive women..?

Answer 1

High maintenance is more like you wont settle for the Cadillac.It has to be the Bentley.Or no half carrot diamond.Its the three carrot diamond or nothing.And I will through a fit if I don't get my way..

Answer 2

Seems we all have our different interpretations of what 'high maintenance' means.

I took it to mean the female was very clingy and needed lots of attention/phone calls/texts etc  Being demanding with his time.  Nothing to do with being kept, or being given money/gifts from her guy. Being taken out , stuff that does not have to  cost money.

Don't know where that puts me then? CHEAP? I must be running on air,  I am that low maintenance. I am quite independant and would hate to be seen as tight with my time or money, nor would I date someone just because they are better off than myself.    

Last b/f  must have thought he was in heaven, never spent money on me, nor did we go anywhere.  Looking back I was always getting him little gifts etc just when I saw something I bought it, but that is my nature.  In fact he only bought me one  gift in all the time we were together, and I am not sure if he actually used his own money to buy it.  Think he may have got it from the  company he works for,  at Christmas and gave it to me!  LOL that would not surprise me at all. And as for keeping in touch regularly.....not on your life.

So men can be 'High Maintenance' to, as I spent a lot more of my time, energy and money on him, and I don't work!!

Answer 3

I think high maintenance really refers to women who are hard to please. I don't think being bright has anything to do with it. Some women (and men) confuse being demanding with being assertive and there is a big difference.

While we are on the subject, why do we always associate 'high maintenance' with women?' Surely a man who is possessive and/or demanding is high maintenance?

Answer 4

Just means they're gold diggers babe.

Answer 5

not all of them, but a lot of men like things simple, they can't cope with any thing too complex.

Answer 6

It's never crossed my mind that "bright and assertive" women and "high maintenance" women are in any way related.  But I can understand that they both may seem challenging to please.  I think that's generally the guy's biggest desire is to have the girl happy with him.  So a girl who's hard to please can be a source of stress and maybe even intimidation.  As for "bright and assertive" that kind of girl shouldn't be too difficult to make happy unless a great deal of arrogance comes along with her intelligence.  Or the guy could just feel intimidated because he feels dumb in the first place.  Just make him feel like you think he's smart and things will work out, if that's what your trying for.

Answer 7

A "high maintenance" woman/girl...is one that....

1.  Demands a man's total attention...all the time....and is pitiful or nasty if she doesn't get her way.

2.  Orders a steak....when she knows her date can only afford a hamburger....

3.  has to have a diamond....in order for the man to "prove" his love....

4.  is all wrapped up in "herself".

Answer 8

keeps you up all night  , maintaining .

Answer 9

High maintenance usually means demanding of time, attention and money. Thats a lot of demands in a relationship. I'd steer clear of that myself. It sounds insecure, self serving and shallow.

I don't think men are afraid of bright assertive women, they may however avoid high maintenance women, I can't blame them.

Inevitably some don't, but the woman has to offer a lot in the way of beauty as compensation!

Answer 10

I always thought that 'high maintenance' women were kept women who expected a lot. Probably because they thought it was enough to be born an attractive women, and that any man should be satisfied with that.

There are less charitable definitions, such as 'gold digger' and even worse.

Do you have a different understanding?

Answer 11

because men like to be the dominant person. and they tend to be jealous when there gf/wife has a better job/better money.. its just men that are set in their ways.

Answer 12

Depends on the situation. If the girl is viewed as high maintenance because she is upper class, and born and bred to have very high expectations, a guy that is lower class will hate her because he knows that she will not be satisfied living in a one bedroom apartment and missing all the events at the yacht club. if the girl is hm as in she just expects guys to satisfy her every whim but doesnt have the background or class, guys hate her because she is conceited.

Answer 13

High maintenance means expensive. Non-millionaires should steer well clear of them.

Answer 14

high maintenance women are sort of miss prises.  all they do is want want want.  i think you know from this description why men hate high maintenance women :)

Answer 15

high maintenance sounds pejorative. Maybe you can get a lot out  of that relationship too.

It sounds like a  social dynamic whereby if you cannot handle a particular energy you blame it rather than just saying - not for me thanks.

Technically I am high maintenance but then so is my partner and we manage equal give and take quite well.

i dont think there is a 'them' everyones high maintenace to someone who cannot cope.