What do you military girlfriends and wives do...?

Question

When your man is away and your missing him and craving him?? :(

Answer 1

Anything we can to keep busy whether it be a job, taking care of our kids, decorating, thinking of things to do for the husband while away and when he comes back.

Whatever you can to keep your mind off it really.  Not to forget about him, of course, but to keep yourself occupied in ways that makes the time go by a little faster.

Try finding some female friends (not male.  temptations are easy to fall into whether you think you can hold back or not, and even if you can, you will gain a reputation thanks to the wives and girlfriends who can't control themselves!) who you trust and can talk to and go out with.  It helps.  Also, don't countdown the days til he comes back.  Countdown the days til birthdays and holidays.  Smaller numbers are better than one big number!

Stay strong!  It will be over before you know it.  Promise!

Answer 2

I'm so busy during the day that I don't often have time to sit and think about the fact that he's gone. I work during the day, I volunteer in the community, I have 3 kids which I"m helping with homework and shuffling to their sports practices in the evenings, I get together with my friends. I start a home improvement project or set some other goal that I aim to finish by the time he gets home. Time goes by fairly quickly for me. I don't ever wait by the phone or computer-- I know I won't hear from him often and waiting just makes time drag.

When I have a day that I'm just really wishing he were here, I'll write him a letter or put together a carepackage. It just makes me feel better. I'll invite some girlfriends over and just have a good girls night in.

Answer 3

Well, my husband is going to be on his 2nd deployment, but I keep myself busy and surrounded by family.  I work, go to school and hang out with the sisters.  I believe those who cheat are just plain stupid, if you know your going to hurt the husband then why bother marrying.  I had a friend who got married and within a month he deployed coming home for R&R finding out his wife was cheating.  Very sad.  People are stupid these days.  But if you know you cant deal with it, then don't even bother getting married.

Answer 4

No, we dont all call Jodi!!!

Im an admissions manager at a hospital and an EMT.

Not to mention i just joined the air force myself.

swallow that!!!

Answer 5

Well I cant answer for all, but my hubby is on his 3rd tour in Iraq. While he is gone I do my best to stay busy. I'll work, and the last deployment I redid our bedroom and our living room. And there is also alot of waiting by the phone or computer, hoping that you will hear from them. I get to talk to my hubby about 3-4 times or sometimes more a week, and we talk and discuss everything. There is also getting care packages ready and letters and cards in the mail. Plus you have to take on the daily chores that he would normally do. I dont go to bars or parties or anything. I hang out with friends and if you can find a military spouse whos guy is gone to then you can use each other for support. So you just have to find something else todo. I also have a calender that I mark days off. (It helps alot). This 3rd deployment we are on the downside so thats alot of getting ready.

I dont know if this helped or not.

Answer 6

they call jodi....

Answer 7

My mom does what every other mother does, take care of the home front til he comes back..

sillytsh good for you :P

my dads be in for 22 years now

Answer 8

I can't speak for all wives and girlfriends, but I just try to stay busy with hobbies, reading, I'm part of a message board for military wives and girlfriends which gives me a place to talk to people going through the same thing and to vent when things get hard, and I make plans for what I want to do when he gets back

Answer 9

call "jodi" what c**p....if you do you're weak....do everything you can to stay busy and just keep you mind off of it there is nothing you can do to make him come back right now no matter how much you want him to and it sucks sometimes but its a way of life

Answer 10

everyones different..

some cant wait for the "freedom" and when the deployments end the divorces begin

others wait it out.. cus that's all they can do.. it's a sacrifice they make for hte profession/spouse they chose.

everyones different..