What do you say in this situation? How can I talk about this?

Question

I'm a 20 year old college student, who was sexually abused as a child, and sexually assaulted as a teen, I also have a past of loneliness, depression, cutting, etc... I finally want to tell someone about what is going on, and I have a meeting set up with a teacher who I really trust tomorrow afternoon, she knows the basics of my past, but tomorrow would be the first time we sit down and really talk... How can I start the conversation? What things can I say? I'm really scared but I know I trust her more than anyone else, and if I were to tell anyone I'm confident she is the right person...

Any helpful suggestions would be appreciated...

Thanks

Answer 1

You might try writing it down if you really can't tell her, but if you can talk to her, just tell her everything.  Get it off your chest.  keeping that stuff bottled up will kill you.  

Answer 2

You sound like a awesome person... and you are ready to share your past.  This is a time to do it.  As U said,  tell her your not really sure how to start the conversation,  but, there are others things she /he doesn't know.  I hope she is female if you are female , that is important.  There are alot of us who have experienced the same abuse.  The beginning of recovery is to tell someone... and your teacher already knows the basic's.  I will pray for you... I hope to hear from you if ever you want to talk!  Thinking of you tonight and tomorrow!  Stay strong!

Answer 3

I dont know if a teacher is who you should be talking to, but if that is who you feel most comfortable with it's better than not talking at all.

Start out by letting your teacher know how much it means to you that she is willing to listen and make sure you remind her to keep what you say confidential. keep in mind though that if you are currently being abused it is her duty to report it.

Ease into discussing the times you were abused and dont expect it to be easy to talk about. It's going to hurt and you are going to be very sad, but when you talk about it, you are allowing yourself to heal. It's wonderful that you feel ready to share your burden with someone and it's going to help you in the long run.

If you are cutting yourself or harming yourself in any way, please go speak with a professional counselor. They can work with you and help you learn coping skills that are less destructive and much more effective. Be honest with yourself...if you have been cutting all this time and you are still depressed, cutting is NOT helping. You are worth it to better yourself and to have quality of life, not just an existence. A therapist may also be able to place you on a medication to help level out the chemical imbalance in your brain.

Just remember that what happened is not your fault and release yourself of any guilt that you feel. Let out all the anger you have for the people who abused you, even if they were people you loved and trusted. It's not your job to protect them or stand up for them for what they did.

Good luck with this situation. I have confidence that you are on the right track! If you ever need someone to talk to, drop me a line.

Answer 4

just spill everything out. start from the beginning of what happened and then how'd u felt and then how it affected u.