What do you say to a person who has asked to stay with you and u wanna say no but u said yes!?

Question

It's my fiance's sister I know he doesn't have a problem with it,but I do.Well he he works all day and is never here anyway.She's a nice person and everything,but I'm a stay at home mom and I guess I got used to my privacy and being alone and I like it that way...I wonder if i'm just being shellfish or what.I already said yes but it's not like she doesn't have anywhere else to go..I sound real mean,but it's like taking care of another child and I have my own you know.I need to know how to say get out nicely without any bad blood I mean it is his sister??

Answer 1

Where is she going to sleep?  I would suggest making sure her bed is not too comfortable.  (My distant relatives left after "only" 10 days due to my old futon bed...)  Also, let the kids be free to make some noise before 7.00am every day.

On the other hand, maybe you can negotiate something for you such as the lodging in exchange for a few hours babysitting each week.  At least you'll be able to have some fun too.

Answer 2

just make it clear that its ok for a couple of days but you like your privacy and prefer that she find other accommodation asap. honesty always the best way to go.

Answer 3

My boyfriend's family is hte same way, they think it's okay to just stay for a month or have us dogsit for them while they go on vacation...

I find it very intrusive.

But it's almost impossible for me to say no too because my boyfriend always tells his family to ask me, and I don't want to look like the bad guy!!

I knwo how you feel, but am not sure of how to say no in a polite manner!

Answer 4

I hope this might teach you not to say "yes" when you mean "no" in the future.

I'm sure you feel as if your privacy has been invaded.

You could talk with your sister in law and let her know this is a temporary situation... you and your husband might have used some forethought and let her know this in the first place, and given her X amount of time to find her own place.  It's not too late.

Meanwhile, if your sister in law is living in your home, don't take care of her... you need to let her know what is expected of her around the house (helping with dishes, cleaning up the bathroom after she uses it, doing her own laundry, sharing vacuuming etc).