What do you say to somebody when a family member dies?

Question

I have a friend, who had their grandfather die, and they are really heartbroken over it. Because their grandfather was really close to them.

I really want to help them... but I don't know what to say. Just something to make them feel better.

Answer 1

i know how your friend is feeling b/c my grandma died and i was really close to her. sometimes its best not to say anything at all. sometimes you just want someone to be there for you just to be there. i know when my grandma died i was just glad that my friends were there just in case i needed someone to talk to. just make it clear that you are going to be there if they need someone. that's the best that you can do.  

Answer 2

ive had someone close to me die and really, i hated it when people said anything. Like people constatly asking if i was okay and always asking if i needed anything and its really annoying because youreally just want to forget about it for awhile. Everything feels kind of numb and stuff. Its hard to explain but if i were you i wuldt mention anything about it and just try to keep their mind off of it, like go to the mall, the movie, bowling that sorta thing anddo that to try adn help them feel better

Answer 3

Well, as bad as this sounds, there's really nothing you can say.  Your friend is still gonna be upset and hurt.  Even time doesn't always heal wounds that are that deep.  Just be there for your friend, at the funeral and wake.  Just listen to your friend, just being there for her is going to be what she needs right now.  You sound like a good friend, so I'm sure that you are planning on doing this anyway.

Answer 4

My grandmother, my best friend, passed away two years ago. There are times when telemarketers ask for her, and I have difficulties explaining that she's no longer available. However, life does go on. Your friend is probably on the stage of denial and sadness right now, so it's safe to know that she is grieving. If you haven't experienced this, then you can sympathize with her. You can tell her that you are sorry for her loss, and how you love your grandparents. You should also tell her "Condolence" and if you even knew her grandpa, you can maybe drop by the viewing or funeral. Usually justing expressing your sympathy is good enough though. It'll help her with the process.

Answer 5

There is only one statement that could really help. Simply, let them know if they need anything to let you know. There aren't any easy words that could comfort them in their time in need except for offering your service.

"I want you to know that whenever you need me I am here for you okay, and I will keep your family in my prayers?"

If you or family member can make a dish for them, it would be great and a nice sympathy card. This will let them know how much you have them in your heart. Your friend has my true condolences. God bless.  

Answer 6

Just tell them exactly how you feel. "I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather, I know you were really close, if you want to talk about it I am here for you."