What do you say to someone who thinks you didn't attend a wedding but really you weren't invited?

Question

Family friends got married, my brother and parents were invited (we're all adults) but I wasn't. The groom's sister thinks that I was invited but chose not to come but I don't want to be like "loved to been their if i was invited". They were trying to keep the numbers down and my brother is friends with the grooms, and my parents with the grooms parents, and I am friends with the grooms sister. what do i say without sounding offended? (I'm not)

Answer 1

just tell that I m unhappy with them

Answer 2

You just tell the truth....

Answer 3

Tell the truth.. and say that you understand. That the invitation was only for some of your family .. you tell us you were not offended so telling the truth is the best policy.. then the person who asked will not feel awkward that her family did not include you in the invitation and you should be honest to the grooms sister.. then she will not think you didn't attend out of mad manners and it will clarify the whole situation satisfactorily to both sides and nobody will  have bad feelings toward the other....

Answer 4

Just tell the truth! And you shouldn't be defensive either. When you are trying to keep the numbers down, some people don't get invited, that's just the way it is and it certainly isn't a put down.

Answer 5

Come on, just tell her you were not invited. Explain it like you did on this question. you did say you were all adults. Right?

Answer 6

I would tell her! Stand up for yourself for having the manners of not showing up uninvited! Just say, "I would have loved to been there, but unfortunately I wasn't on the guest list!"

Answer 7

well i would tell who ever accused you its not my fault that you

have a  mest   up mail service so don't be a ba   stabbing prick

Answer 8

PEOPLE!!!! WHERE are your MANNERS???  Are you trying to stir up trouble where none exists???

M'dear... your best response is simply, "I'm sorry I missed it, but I was unable to attend."  There is NO need to expound upon WHY you were unable to attend, and it is the truth that you WERE sorry that you didn't attend.  That puts the blame on NO one and keeps the peace for all the parties.

Have a polite day.

Answer 9

I think it is better for them to know that there was some error and you didn't get an invitation than think that you not only chose not to come, but rudely didn't even give them the courtesy of an RSVP saying you weren't going!!

You could just say that perhaps the invitation was lost in the mail because you never got it, but you feel better knowing that you weren't excluded and that it was just a mail error. (The poor US postal service takes a lot of blame they don't deserve anyway!!) That way everyone saves face. It especially works because clearly they didn't mean to exclude you.  

P.S. You have a great attitude about this! Your family friends are lucky!

Answer 10

Honey just say you weren't invited.