What do you say to your 7 year old son?

Question

when, on his first time playing out, a bigger kid takes his stuff? I got it back, but he's very upset. Serious answers only please. My lad is very distressed.

Answer 1

tell him to walk away and never take his stuff out with out supervision, tell him its not okay for someone to take your things but he could also get hurt for trying to get it back, id rather be safe than have materialistic things.and tell him what goes around comes around this kid will lose something important to him one day.

Answer 2

Poor guy. Does he have an older brother or sister? If so, next time he goes out they should go with him and support him if the lad comes back again. If he doesn't, make sure he goes out with a group of mates and hangs around somewhere different. Also it would be a good idea to talk to the lad's parents.

Answer 3

Talk to the bigger boy's Parents. You should tell your son to stick up for himself, if possible.

Answer 4

Teach your son to stand up for himself.  If the other kids think they can get away with it, they'll try.  If you are passive and "let" things happen to you, then he'll probably do the same.

Answer 5

Tell him in a clam voice that some people are just mean. and he should not worry.

keep him safe. talk to the bigger boys parents

Hope things work out

Answer 6

You should either,

1. Talk to the older kids parents.

2. Try and teach your son to defend himself.

3. Tell your son not to take valuable stuff on the street.

4. Watch your son while hes out for a few weeks.

If this happens again , you have the right to call 999 and tell them they are stealing your sons stuff. Their parents can then be fined, and they are likely not to do it again.

Answer 7

You  have been given good advice by the other responders.

Talking to the other bigger lad and his parents is good.

Getting your son's stuff back is ok, but does not resolve the issue of being bullied.

I recommend that you schedule a FAIR fight between your son and the bigger lad. Set the ground rules with the other lads parents. You can purchase a couple sets of oversized boxing gloves, headgear, and even body-foam armour,  if you have physical safety concerns. The extra added weight of the oversized gloves will tire them out soon enough.

Personally I detest that anyone has to fight, but I detest bulies more. Bullies are about us through Life even in the workplace where it can be more subtle.

I make this reccomendation because I understand that we want to protect our children from others and themselves. However just as it is neessary for our children to behave well when we are not present, it is also necessary for them to be able to protect  themselves when we are not present.  

Your son must  learn that bullies do not bully unless they think they have nothing to lose or risk. Bullies will bully those whom will not defend themselves. Bullies will not fight those who will fight back.

This will be good for your son with regard to his personal esteem, in that he will learn that he can take care of himself without Mother's fighting his battles. He will be forced to draw from within himself that which is manly for good reasons. His stress will be relieved because he will be involved in the noble cause of defending his true honour, which in effect "knights"  to be a protector of the weak.

He might win, lose or draw. That does not matter. He will do his best and his opponent will respect him and even could be his new "big brother" and protector.

I hope that this helps.

Answer 8

Well Im not a parent but I would tell him its not right for someone to take yourself nor is it right for you to take someones elses things. Some people make mistakes and Im sure he is very sorry he took your things. I dunno thats I cant think of to say. Again Im not a parent, I cant imagine how hard it is to be a parent.

Answer 9

Take him and sign him up for karate lessons at a school that teaches kids not oly karate but dealing with bullies and behavior too.  Your kid will likley never use the karate but will gain self confidence and skills on how to manage such situations.

Answer 10

I suggest you explain to your son about Bullies if possible.  The best bet is to always tell a parent.  Nothing to be ashamed of here.

Answer 11

I'd tell him taht when and only when he feels threatened It's ok to hit. If some bully tries to take his things away he should stick up for himself and push and tell him to get away from his things! Encourage him not to be scared and if he can't do it go to the park with him and tell the kid that next time he takes anythign away from your son he'll have to deal with you!!!! And if he's mom says he told her anything just tell her that yes you did and she should disciplyn her rude kid, if she did nobody else would have to!!! LOL Not that you are gonna hit the kid, but doesn't hurt to get him scared of mesing with you boy!

Answer 12

Well, as a parent and knowing how protective we can be in these types of situations it is up to us as role models to guide them ... You can explain to your son that what the other kid did was wrong and that next time he needs to use his words and express the way it made him feel when he did that. (yeah I know who does that anymore?) but it works.

I then would go to the other childs authority and show your son that it is okay to "tattle" when it is necessary rather than teaching your son that it is okay to use violence.