What do you suspect my husband is doing?

Question

Can't find him at work, doesn't answer his cell phone, has a new bank account, new po box, rides his harley every weekend, started a band at sleezy bars, erases cell phone records and wallet. I forgot to mention when I became ill with cancer this past year he told everyone MY story in order for him to receive sympathy, never helped me or asked how I felt in a sincere manner. I know he was happy with my diagnosis and wished I wouldn't make it. I am feeling fabulous and in remission! Too bad for him! BTW, I filed for divorce recently after he picked a fight in order to stay away for the weekend!

Answer 1

hes handing out lunches for the sick and elderly,not.you no what hes doing ,you just don't know who to.hes not worth the time to find out,the writing on thewall says its time to move on,retreat,give up,stop. help him pack.just say ,NOT.

Answer 2

If you don't follow through with the divorce, he will. He has done everything to indicate that he wants out!

Answer 3

To me it sounds like he is having a midlife crisis.  Maybe your battle with cancer made him think about how life is short and can end at any moment.  He's trying to relive his youth and have some fun.  Unfortunately, he's not being fair to you and it's obvious he doesn't care about how it's affecting his marriage.  

Answer 4

My ex use to pick fights all the times just to give him a reason to leave and stay gone for the weekend.  I'm so happy you are feeling great!!!!!  Don't let him drag you down way to go on filing for divorce.  He sounds like he's going through something only he knows what it is.  All signs point to affair.  My ex was the same way and he's now living with his girlfriend and did I mention she's pregnant?  (We aren't divorced yet even though the papers are filed).  Just focus on you and leave the jerk to rot.  Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

Good for you for filing and also on your remission.

You deserve someone much better. He is obviously cheating on you. Good riddance, to bad rubbish = )

Good luck!!

Answer 6

Start your new life without him!  He is a straight up coward.

Answer 7

What you've done is great. I feel for you. Look, as for what I think he's doing...I don't know. But it sounds to me like he's insecure with himself. He also seems like a person who is too wrapped up in himself to deal with you. Do you have kids? If so, make sure you don't say things against him around them. Kids no matter the age can be effected with relationship issues if you say too much. Try not to trash their dad. I know situations like these for personal reasons and you truly shouldn't worry too much. Focus on your health, you will be fine only if you think positive.

Also, divorces can be brutal and tough for the whole family. As for what I suspect he's doing...nothing. I just think it's an internal/emotional thing. If you are thinking of him being unfaithful, you have every right as a woman to think so. We all do even if it's not true. Just be brave and strong, but don't stress.

GOOD FOR YOU for fighting cancer, a family member of mine went through it and it's never all right at home when it happens. If you survived this, you can get through anything.

Live, love, and be happy. If you do, nothing can ever really be bad, can it? <333

Have a good day.

Answer 8

I am sincerely happy you fought and won your battle [with both] the disease and your soon to be ex-husband.  I came across recently, via, a carer's role with a similar story.  Husband had met and married a woman with a life threatening disease. He was informed fully of negatives.  He apparently had no intention from day one of supporting her nor spending time with her.  She was a domestic servant in the home whilst she suffers tremendously.  Now in a wheelchair he is leaving her as meals and so forth difficult to do.

He is earning an above average income and did not pay to install a wheelchair ramp.  

As I say time and time again: why should we judge given that KARMA will come his way and twice as hard as it does to all of us who are not compassionate or giving.  

Fair enough we may not all be suited as time progresses and we may grow apart; intellectually/interests etc. However he should have been honest with you before making excuses and staying away nights and acknowledged the times you were there for him. I am not a feminist but have to say all of the women in my age group married [40's] I am friends with have given SO MUCH to their husbands and partners over 20yrs, particularly when they catch a cold and sniffle let alone cough! I was the same, 20 years of 100% supporting my husband only to be taken for granted and nothing ever acknowledged or a thankyou.  Children the same.  

When I am ten foot under they will acknowledge then as no-one will be doing the running I do and have done for them.

This is my point: if you gave to your husband a great deal over the years; he is the loser and will, over the next year, acknowledge whom has lost the most from your marriage finished. Do not concern yourself, save up and take a well earned holiday. Kindest wishes.    

Answer 9

Tell him to get on his harley and hit the hi-way and don't look back. You know what he is doing. Good luck to you.

Answer 10

I am sorry he was not there when you needed some one on your side. I am very happy to hear about your remission. I hope you take him for every thing he has and ever hopes to have. Make him pay. Like the saying goes "If your going to dance you have to pay the fiddler." You deserve some one much better than him. There are a lot of men out there that will treat you like a real woman and be very happy to do so. Now that you have filed for a divorce tell him to pack his bags and get out and stay out. Then change all the locks so he can not get back in. Make him pay support and anything else you can get. Good Luck.

Answer 11

wow sounds like you did right thing divorce

Answer 12

Hes drinking and drugging making believe he never knew you.

Answer 13

Did it ever occur to you that this man may not have a conscience? His irresponsible behavior, lack of remorse, and lack of empathy point to him being an anti-social personality. The fact that he covers his tracks and doesn't want to leave a record of his wherabouts or dealings in the world also sounds as if he may be engaged in some illicit behavior. I think your divorce filing is probably a smart move on your part. Good Luck!

Answer 14

Relish your remission, move on from the divorce, and DON"T LOOK BACK!!!  Life is short, and you need to be happy.  Best of Luck

Answer 15

Sorry to hear about your cancer,glad that your in remission!!!  Sounds like your husband may be cheating on you.  It's a shame that he used the fact that you have cancer to get people to feel sympathy.  I feel sorry for you!!  Just remember everything happens for a reason!! Best of luck!!

Answer 16

Great news about the remission!  I am so happy for you.  Unfortunately, your husband sounds like a jerk (sorry).  You are right to move on.  I can't believe he wasn't able to support you in the most important time in your life!  Find someone who will.

Answer 17

get rid of the monkey off your shoulder ---m this bloke is no good --- good luck . and if her hits you take out a dvo on him --- he deserves nothing less than a stint in the slammer to smarten him up --- but please ; please --- don't take him back .!!

again good luck .

Answer 18

GOOD for YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!

he is being a male that is what he is up to..  

get rid of his sorry AZZZZZZ .. you don't need that ...

Answer 19

Hmm- do you know if he has any new tattoos? If he's not working in a soup kitchen helping the homeless--LOL-then I bet he's hanging out with biker babes ( think a sleazier version of Pamela Anderson!) He's trash, good thing you're dumping him. So glad to hear that you are in remission and hope you pick better next time!