What do you tell your best friend when his dad just passed away?

Question

Ive known him for 7 years now and now we are both 15 and his dad just passed away last week. I just found out this morning and he is very miserable but i just don't know what to say to him, how to make him feel a bit better or optimistic about things.

Can anyone help me please?

Answer 1

no preachin...just offer you support in any way that you can

Answer 2

you should listen to what he says, cause he probably has a lot to say. he may hide his feelings but its always good to be there for him even if he doesn't say muchh,  

Answer 3

Sometimes you don't need words. Tell him you're there for him, and be sure to be sensitive about what you say to him.

Answer 4

go visit him as much as you can. maybe have him talk about of the good times he had with his dad. and anytime your at a store or leaving is house, as him if there is anything you can get for him while your out. i dont know if this is what guys do, but maybe give him a hug or something to let him know that emotionally, you are also there for him. maybe the first thing you can say to him is "im really sorry, i cant even imagine what your probably feeling right now." make sure you go to some kind of service with him, and maybe you can even go visit his fathers grave with him every once and a while so he can talk to him, or leave him flowers or something along those lines.

im so sorry you have to go through this. im 17 and i have no idea how i would handle it if my best friends parents died. i hope all turns out okay for you and him.  

Answer 5

u should b there for him. comfort him and tell him that everything will be okay. if u guys are best friends u need to be by his side!!!!

Answer 6

Grievings a long process, especially if its his dad and hes only 15. He will probably want space, and comfort depending on how hes feeling so just say to him "When you want me im here. When you need space, im here when you need me." When he wants to talk about his dad (if he does) dont be afraid of talking deeply. Tell him, that youll stick by him no matter what, if he wants to shut himself a way for a bit whilst he mourns his dad you understand, but your friendship will still be there when hes ready. If my dad died, i wouldnt really want people trying to make me happy, id rather deal with it in my own time. I would understand that my friends wanted to help, and wanted to make me happy but id appreciate it most if they let me be sad, and were there to talk when i wanted to. You will get your friend back, and he will have a different outlook on things. True he will miss his dad, but most probably he will want to do his dad proud and live a happy life. But right now hes in shock, and extremelly down. He needs a friend, not someone to lecture him about heaven :) Just remember that. Good luck x  

Answer 7

just let him now that you are sorry for his lost and that you are there for him. that is about all you can do because this is something that just takes time and he will get better. but he needs to know that his friends are there for him and care.

Answer 8

Just be there for him, sit and listen, if he doesn't talk, that's ok too. Just be there in this presence. Just show him you care. You need not even say a word. Unless he asks you too. He wil ask questions, then you can TRY to answer them.