What do you think I should do in this situation/future situations like this?

Question

I have 2 cousins (who are both sisters) who I was very close with. We have been close for about 5-6 years non-stop from around 2001/2002 until around the end of 2007.

We used to always hang out and talk on instant messenger and see eachother every week or so and would get eachother the biggest presents for birthdays and even memorise eachothers' birthdays. We talked about anything and everything and supported eachother fully.

Then suddenly at the end of 2007 they (without any apparent reason) started being very distant towards me. I asked them why and such and tried communicating it with them and even tried to rectify the closeness we once had between us by inviting them to hang out more and stuff but all my efforts were given cold responses to.

Fast forward to nowadays and we hardly even talk or see eachother anymore (even though we only live 10 minutes from eachother!). Every time we meet eachother now (weekly) they hardly even talk to me or say hi anymore.

Question: How should I react in this situation? Should I just give up and let it go (what I'm planning to do now)? Why are some people like this (one day or year everything's hunky dory and the next it's non-existant)? Has this ever happened to you? How did you react to the situation?

Thanks.

Answer 1

This happened to me once. My cousin and I had been very close since we were still toddlers. Then for no apparent reasons he sort of moved away from me. I was SO sad when it happened. I tried my best to get his attention again and finally after 3 years of awkward relationship, we grew close again...

My advice: Keep trying! And do not lose hope. I am sure it is just a temporary glitch...

Good luck...

Answer 2

I had a friend who did this to me, and we remained distant for almost a year. It turns out, some little comment about her driving sent her over the edge and she decided to cut me out of her life. She was already in a very stressful bad place where she had to worry about her job, finding a new job, and passing her classes. When she finally graduated, I sent her a congratulatory card with a sweet message saying how I always admired how determined and strong she was. 6 months later, she was a bridemaid in my wedding and this year I'll be one in hers, and we hang out all the time like it never happened.

My suggestion is that you pick a time, a birthday, graduation, Christmas to send a nice message to remind them that you love and cherish them, and that you'll always be there for them. That physical letter or card is a tender reminder that this situation can be easily fixed, and they'll see that you've always been a good friend and will continue to be.  

Answer 3

I THINK IF U WANT THERE FRIENDSHIP BACK,U NEED TO TEX THEN LET THEM NO HOW YOU FEEL AND THAT FOR ALL THE YEARS U N THEM HAVE BEEN FRIENDS THEY COULD AT LEAST LET YOU NO WHY THEY R TREATING YOU SO BAD,,CAUSE SOUNDS LIKE SOMEONE MIGHT HAVE TOLD THEM A LIE ABOUT U,LIKE  U TALKED BAD ABOUT THEM,,I WOULD WANT TO NO WHY,,GOOD LUCK IN WHAT EVER U DESIDE TO DO,,,PEACE