What do you think I should do when he gets home?

Question

I was at the hospital all day yesterday because my mother was having surgery and my husband stayed home with the kids so I can be there because the don't allow children in that section of the hospital. After I got home he went to see her until visiting hours were over. Today woke up a bit concerned for my mother because when I left yesterday she didn't look to good after the surgery. He asked me do I want to go to feel better. I said sure but don't you have to go to work? HE said as long as you are here before 12 PM I am ok it was about 10 AM when he told me this so I took a shower got dressed and left about 10:30 or so. By the time I arrived at the hospital it was about 11 am. I went up there and saw her and help her get dressed and took care of her but time was going by. He got real upset and yelled at me and said whyyy you are so inconsiderate about my job and what I do and yadaa yadda. I was hurt because we are very lovey dovy all the time. When I got home which I walked by the way that is another thing I forgot to mention the hospital is 15 blocks away and he gave me no money to take a cab and ***** at me.When he gets home I want to tell him off what you anyone do in this situation?

Answer 1

You want to tell him off? Oh, that's a good way to patch things up.

He's your husband, and you need to have more respect for him.

Be a sweet lady and things will go well.  Apologize to Him and explain that you didn't realize you were being so inconsiderate of his job, and what he does, he's obviously feeling like you don't respect him.  so just apologize and explain that you'll try harder to be considerate of him and that you're thankful that he is doing a good job.

Best of luck to ya!

Answer 2

See what he says first. He was probably very mad at the moment but may understand by now. He might even appologise! Men seem to surprise me though - GL! Sorry about your mom...

Answer 3

dont tell him off... my guess is he feels bad about yelling at you...

The hard part is that you did agree to being home by 12... and he was being sweet by allowing you to go...  he should not have yelled at you.. but I think his temper just got the best of him.

You should do something nice for him... make him dinner to apologize for making him late.... That way he will apologize for making you feel bad about it.

Answer 4

I think it's better to just explain to him that you were worried about your mom and while your were there you were more concerned with helping her then staring at the clock. You didn't mean to make him late for work, but you were doing the best that you could with the situation. Let him know you appreciate him giving you a chance to go there this morning, but don't appreciate the way he reacted when you were late. His attitude when you got home took away from the good deed he tried to do by letting you go there in the first place.

Answer 5

I would tell him that you understand his job is important to him, but tell him he needs to understand that you are very concerned for your mother and her well being , and you feel that he was being inconsiderate for yelling at you when you were just trying to take care of your mother. I would also elaborate on the fact that your mother just came out of surgery and she doesn't look so good.

Answer 6

Tell him THATS MYMOTHER***** MOM  

Answer 7

not really sure but i'd bite my tounge and c wat he says he could b just as stressed as u good luck xx

Answer 8

He has been unfair to u. Has it been his mother instead of urs, would he have behaved this way ? Here lies the point. Just ask him to give an honest reply to u in the name of God. He won't.  

Answer 9

restraint of pen and... u know but do talk

Answer 10

Although I can certainly understand your position here, I think a call before heading to the hospital and checking in on ur mom would of been better. But thats done and we cant undo it. So I say you clean ur home and make a special dinner. Put the kids to bed early and have a nice dinner with your man. Tell him that he should of been more considerate of your mother but you too should of been more considerate about his time and his work. Explain to him that the next time you have to see ur mother, you'll get up a little earlier.