I'm 30 and he's 37. We both have a history of being taken for granted in relationships. His last long-term relationship ended 7 years ago, and there was a period of 6 years that he didn't date anybody. We only met in June 2007, and we've been pretty much inseparable ever since. He said the L word first. His friends love me and his parents treat me like I'm one of the family. I am absolutely crazy about this guy. He says he wants me to be with him forever, he sees us getting older together, the house he bought before we met is "OUR house." :) I can see us being together forever, too. He is wonderful to me, sweet, attentive, the s*x is amazing... He's afraid I'm going to walk all over him like past girlfriends, and he's afraid he's not good enough for me.
I want to get married someday. I know we've only been together almost 15 months, which, these days, isn't long enough! He is very vague about it. He thinks marriage should be about love and being together forever. He thinks people get divorced too easily, or get married for the wrong reasons (I agree). I know it's too soon to really be thinking about it, but I don't want to waste my time.
More background: we are both working and in school part-time. I know that I'm not ready to plan a wedding at the moment. It could be that he's focused on getting his degree before he makes a decision like marriage. Also: he asked me to move in with him. I told him that I wasn't going to do that unless there was a chance that we would get married. He said, "Well living together will help decide that" and, when I brought it up again a couple months later, he said "I know what your intentions are, and you shouldn't worry so much."
Can anyone give me feedback? Or am I just over-thinking this whole thing?
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