What do you think? Should my 6 year old be jealous or hurt?

Question

Every year my daughter is the only child at her cousins birthday party....There is a set of twins both turned 10 and a younger sibling turned 7, who all open their gifts in front of my daughter every year. I am not talking about just a few presents either, maybe 15 to 20 for each child...Is this normal for me and my daughter to be upset? I would not mind if it were a couple each....What do you think?

Answer 1

Is the point that they get so many gifts or that she is the only one not opening gifts? I guess either way my answer is this. You need to teach your daughter to be excited for her cousins. We can't always be the one getting gifts. Maybe let her pick out the presents you are giving so she gets excited about that instead of worrying about her not getting any gifts. Also, I think that she is old enough to understand that this their b-day and therefor they get gifts, when its her birthday she will get gifts

Answer 2

If you want to buy her gifts to open please do.  It isn't your child's birthday party so why should you get upset.  I am sorry I just really don't understand the problem.  Do you think that your daughter should be getting presents at other peoples parties?

If it is that much of an issue just don't go.

Answer 3

It's a birthday party, right? Isn't she used to watching other kids open presents at birthday parties? Just remind her that on her birthday, she's the one who gets to open the presents.

It might be normal for a 6-year-old to be upset, but you shouldn't be, and you should teach her to be a gracious party guest.

(Kind of weird though ... do all three kids have the same birthday?)

Answer 4

I don't understand why they would have a birthday party and only invite your daughter???  Are they all brothers and sisters who have birthdays around the same time?  15 presents each is a little extreme, I don't think its a reason for your daughter to be upset but, I do think that it is kind of rude.