What do you think about Abortions?

Question

Well i am a 13 year old girl, and my grandmother just told me that my mother had many abortions. My mother kept my older brother and me. My older brother is 20. But after she had my brother she got prgnent twice and had abortions. Then My mother kept me! ( Do you think I am lucky? ) Then After I was born, she got prgent again and aborted again! My mother will NOT talk to me about the abortions. But my grandmother told me a lot. My father left my mother when i was born. So yes she had s*x with a lot of other men. Do you think my mother is a bad person?

I tried talking to her about this, and she started to cry and screamed "I was young!" And I don't ever want to talk to her about it again because I know she is uncomfortable to talk to me about it.

*** Please do not be that mean to my mother, she only did those abortions, because she was young! ***

Answer 1

Unfortunately, they can be a necessary evil...

Answer 2

I don't think she is a bad person, she made mistakes that will plague her for the rest of her life. I simply believe that you are blessed to be here..God obviously wanted you to be here for a reason. It might be easier to talk about this with your mom when you are older or when you become a  mother yourself. My mom wanted to abort me, only thank God she didn't..and it wasn't until I had my son that understood what she felt, fear, anxiousness. Still I did not abort my son, as my mother did not abort me. It takes little effort to lay down and make a baby, but it takes a lot to take responsibility for that life that you created. Pray for her, an give her time. BTW if you didn't catch my opinion, I hate abortions!

I hope this helped a little!

Answer 3

cool I'm 13 too lolz well my mother never had abortions, and yes i do think having s*x before marriage is a sin so yeah, well she doesn't hit you or anything [[not that we know]] so she doesn't seem like a bad MOTHER, but it is kinda bad to kill someone [[as in the child living in here]] i'm trying to not make your mom seem like a bad person, theres like no way around it...

Answer 4

I think they're sad.

People should learn to be more careful instead of using abortions as birth control.

I understand that some girls in certain situations may see abortion as their only option ... but sooooo many unwanted pregnancies can so easily be prevented.  

Answer 5

i think abortion is bad unless they are pregnant through being raped. she shouldn't hae had s*x with loads of different men and just had abortions! Thats Disgraceful!!

Answer 6

No, there's nothing wrong with it at all. It's her choice, and a good one, too. We don't need more people, it's crowded enough already :D

Answer 7

Well, i wouldn't call your mother a bad person, but i don't think abortions are good because you are killing a child even before it comes on Earth. I think you should talk to your dad if you know who and where he is. Ask him why he left your mom. If you want to watch a show about this,with a similar situation please watch the secret life of the american teenager. it comes on ABC Family. Or go on youtube and watch it. Maybe you will relize what your mother had gone through.  

Answer 8

OMG YOU CANT DO THESE THINGS AND DONT BE LIKE YOUR MOTHER SHE IS A VERY VERY BAD INFLUENCE TO YOU and no do NOT have an ABORTION IT IS KILLING !!!!!! could you ever imagine you a 13 year old little girl killing a baby and no it is not a thing inside of you trust me have the baby put up for adoption. killing is VERY bad and your mother is very bad for killing so many babies she never gave them a chance and yes you are SOOOO lucky she did not abort you and just think you would rather kill a poor soul who could of had a chance at life and you just taking that away from him or her i do NOT think you should abort. killing the poor baby inside of you is not the answer PLEASE TRUST ME IT IS THE BEST THING TO DO DONT LISTEN TO ANYONE WHO SAYS ABORT BECAUSE I AM PARTLY CRYING JUST THINKING THAT YOU A LITTLE GIRL KILLING A BABY WHO WANTS LIFE please do NOT abort please i am beggin of you and i am sorry to tell you this but if you abort you will feel sick you will hurt every where you will be depressed please bad things could happen please dont look at this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dtoLI5bbU...

http://www.pleasedontkillyourbaby.com/sa...

look at these please you will understand. and if you can watch the movie called bella the girl was in your situaton to please dont abort

Answer 9

Well honestly, i think your mom is a bad person. She wasnt to young to have s*x, but to young to have a baby? That is rediculous! There are many types of birth control out there and the most common, a condom. I think abortions are very wrong. That could be why they are illegal! Its hard to try and not be to mean to your mother because from the sound of your question, she had multiple abortions. I am completely discusted!  

Answer 10

If you ask me, being young isn't even an excuse on why you had to kill so many unborn children. She should have been more careful when sleeping with several men if that was the case. When you have s*x, you have to be responsible enough and at least know the consequences of what's going to happen when sperm and egg meet, don't you think?

I think abortions are abhorrent and immoral. At least keep the child and give it up for adoption if you can't take care of it.

Answer 11

Yes, you are blessed!! Its a great thing your mother decided to keep you but whats even better is that something told her to. Theres a reason the abortions happened. Maybe the children would have terrible lives or something. Theres a reason for everything in this world and we may not always know the answers. No, your mother is not a bad person!! She is your MOTHER and that all you should be thankful for. Dont worry about her past. Think about how lucky you are to have your future.

--Louisiana--

Answer 12

i think that abortions are so wrong. to me it is like murder even if the baby is not born yet it is still a person.

Answer 13

I think you mom should have been more careful if she didnt want to have so many kids. Having s*x brings consequences and I just dont think that abortion is the way to go.

Answer 14

It sounds like your mother has a lot of regrets since she won't talk about it. It's probably just too painful for her. My mom had an abortion when I was three. I am personally against abortion and wish that women didn't get into situations where they have to have them. Everyone has an opinion on abortion, research and find your own.

Answer 15

I think abortions are a woman's choice to make, but I would never personally have one. I think you are very lucky! =)

And no, I don't think your mom is a bad person. When people are young, they tend to make a lot of mistakes and do crazy things. If I was you, I wouldn't ask her about that stuff and just let it go. She seems to be very hurt from it. Be good to your momma.

Answer 16

I think you need to remember that abortions are highly, highly emotional things.  You are really upsetting your mother by asking her about this.  Your grandmother had no right to tell you these things.

You need to think about what your mother did and learn from her.  I am sure you are seeing just how difficult this is for her, so you should do your best to avoid the same thing.

Is your mother a bad person?  That's not for me, or anyone else here, to say.  You can answer better than anyone else by asking yourself if she is a good mother to you and your brother.  Do not worry yourself about what happened to her years ago---your concern, as her daughter, is about how she has mothered you.

Answer 17

Just because your mother was young does not give her the right to kill her kids! If she was old enough to spread her legs and have unprotected s*x, she was old enough to take responsibility and take care of her kids!

Abortion is wrong.

Answer 18

Im tired of this subject. Everyone has different opinions, and will always have. So there's no point in asking.

Answer 19

It doesn't matter how young she was. If she couldn't raise them then she should've been keeping her legs closed. That is not an excuse. My sister got pregnant when she was 16 and did you see her go run to the abortion clinic? NO. So don't use that as a reason.

Answer 20

If she couldn't handle the kids then why did she keep getting pregnant?  Once isn't the worst thing in the world depending on the situations but more than that is just plain disgusting.  "Because she was young" isn't an excuse.  

Answer 21

I don't think your mom was a bad person. But in this day and age, as women we need to be more responsible about our bodies. Mistakes happen, people get into situations for many reasons and I am 100% FOR a woman's right to choose. But...abortion should not be used as a method of birth control. Say no, get on the pill, use condoms, whatever you have to do to not get into that situation, just do it.

Your mom did what she did and she should not be judged. Learn from her situation and from her mistakes (about this or anything else) and try to do better. Be a role model and educate other young women in your life. Abortion should be safe and available...but rare.

And for all of you holier-than-thou judgmental @sses out there, here is some food for thought: 43% of US women will have an abortion in their lifetime. Take a look around you. do you know 10 women? Chances are very good that at least one of them has gone through this and kept it private. Your mother. Your sister. Your daughter. Your wife. Your friend. Your aunt. Your niece.

Answer 22

I think it is no ones business but your mothers, and your grandmother had no right to say anything to you about it.  Having an abortion is a very difficult, personal decision that a woman has to make and she doesn't have to discuss it with anyone.  

Answer 23

Sorry, but your grandmother should have never told you this and I find that unacceptable.  Seems like your mother might have thought she was in love with these possible fathers but perhaps something happened and I am sure it is a painful memory to her, which is why your grandmother had no right to discuss it.  Your mom is not a bad mom for having so many abortions, perhaps someone put using birth control in her head as a shameful sin or she was too young and misguided.  Tell your MOM you love her no matter what, and hope that one day you and her will be able to discuss anything - its a great thing, I did this with my grandmother and it allowed her to be open with me in a way she was never able to be.  You get a chance to have it with your mom ... I hope --  Give her a snoopy hug *wink*

Answer 24

My mother had two children and had two abortions so i know what you are going through.  My opinion on this is our mothers did VERY BAD things, I know you love your mother but there is no reason for her to have that many abortions and then to continue to have s*x it makes no sense to me just like my mother, it makes no sense to me,  I just goes to show you what selfish people they were!  Now people do change and her past is her past, obviously she feels guilty about what she has done, thats good! she should feel guilty as should mine.  But whatever her past you should forgive and love her and just realize when she was younger she did things she wishes she could now change in some ways.  Just fuels your capacity to do better than she did!  When i got pregnant with my first born my mom said you are to young you need to get an abortion, I didn't thank god!  My son is five years old and I would never change a thing.  It was hard I was young but I made the decision to have s*x and I had to deal with what came,  That is why i dont understand why people say they were to young.  People do it all the time when they are to young but the people who are willing to deal with the "consequences' are the people who go further in life (and save a life).  

To answer your other question, about feeling lucky, Idk how you should feel, I feel very lucky! My mom had two abortions before me, what if she would have had another, I wouldn't be alive.

If you need anything more send me an email and I will do what I can for you.

Answer 25

A lot of people are going to say mean things to you - my advice is to form your own opinion based on your own research. If you are defending your mother's conduct, then you already know what you think - you just haven't put it in so many words.

Don't listen to what people on here say - many of them will be rude and immature. Everyone only has their own views in mind, and none of them are as important to you as your own.

Whatever you decide, don't let it change the way you feel about your mother. She deserves your love and respect regardless of her past. She may not be willing to talk to you about such things until she thinks you are ready - you'll just have to be patient with her. Don't tell her what your grandmother said, and don't try to force her. She'll deal with it when she thinks is best, and that's all you can ask of her.

Answer 26

I myself am pro life. I would not make judgment on your mother for her decisions. I'm not her judge or jury. But I will say that I'm extremely angry that your grandmother told you that about your mom. That was not her place to tell you that.  Shame on her! Don't judge your mother sweetie about decisions she made years ago. It could not have been easy for her. Love her for who she is and know that she's human, she's not perfect.

Answer 27

personally, i'm not one for abortion. my mother has had two abortions and still has five children (me being the oldest at 15). i think that if a woman really can't support a child or is at a stage in her life where a child doesn't fit in, then abortion may be the right course for her. ultimately i think it's the women's decision.

Answer 28

Your mothers business is your mothers business. Just leave it at that.

Everyone has things in their life that they don't want to talk about.

People make mistakes, but she should have taken the precautions.

Whats in the past is in the past and there is no reason to bring it up.

Your grandmother should not have told you about your mothers abortions. Its neither yours or your grandmothers business. If you mom wanted to you know she would have told you.

I would just drop the subject and forget about it.

I'm sure every time your mother looks at you and your brother she thinks... "What if"...

Just act like you where never told, and next time your grandmother starts to tell you something that you shouldn't know about someone else, just tell her you don't want to continue with the conversation.  

Answer 29

Abortion is a very big decision and can cause a lot of trauma. Your mother is obviously still hurting, so I wouldn't try to bring it up again to her. You have questions, which need answered, so I would talk to your grandmother again or your pediatrician or a trusted teacher at school. You deserve to have your questions answered, but I would be sensitive to your mother if you chose to talk to her again.  

Answer 30

I'm pro-life and pro-choice at the same time. Hypocritical, right? I believe that a child from a surprise pregnancy has the right to live, UNLESS the child is going to have a hard life. If the mother cannot support the child or the child for any other reason is going to have a difficult life because of the situation, then the mother has some room to decide if they want their child to go through that or not. I'm not trying to criticize your mother, but I think that three abortions is excessive to the point that it is unnecessary. I could understand that your mother having five children is too much for her to handle, but I don't think she should've aborted three of her children.

Answer 31

Well I don't think you should get an abortion after you have had one kid thats what birth control is for.  If she was young why did she have your brother in the first place