What do you think about a 16 year old being frends with a 26 year old?

Question

I'm 16, and I met this guy one day at the mall. He looks like he could be 22 or something, but apparently he isn't. We met that day, and then hung out a couple times after. We don't talk about sexual things or anything, it actually has never even come up. I know it sounds weird, but we're good friends. We don't look too awkward together, because he looks younger, and I look older, but idk. I'm afraid to tell my friends and everyone about it. I don't think they'll really have much in common if they met him anyways. We just talk about things that bother us and everything. What do you think about it? And why?

Answer 1

Well I'm a 25 y/o female, and from my point of view, a guy MY age "hanging out" with a 16 y/o.... that guy is a complete loser.

Sorry to say, but it's true.

He might seem great to you b/c you're 16 and not too much experience with men.

But if he's my age and finds friendship with someone 10 years younger, then he's hella lame and immature, and can't get along with his own peers, so he goes for youngins-- so he seems like the "cool older guy" instead of to us (ppl my age and his) thinking he's just an immature nerd.

Answer 2

I have 26yr old friends and older...younger friends but I mean its cool you can be friends with anyone as lond as there's no s*x going on there.

Answer 3

i think it is fine. one of my best friends is 27 and i am 16. he gives great advice. i dont think that there is anything wrong with it. just dont start dating or anything.

Answer 4

I think you should be friends with whoever you want. Its nice that you can bond with older people. Don't be scared just to tell your friends. Its your life, your choices, you can do whatever you want with it. Good Luck telling them. x

Answer 5

Don't take this the wrong way but adult males don't hang out with girls 10 years younger than them because they have things in common.

The fact that s*x hasn't come up yet is a big red flag to a parent. It shows that he has skills and patience and will play it slow to get what he wants. I've been a teen, I would have probably been lured in by this "nice guy" too.

Please end the "friendship". 99% chance he does just want s*x.

Answer 6

HE'S TEN YEARS OLDER THAN YOU AND A RANDOM STRANGER!!!! HUH WAT SHOULD U DO?   DONT BE DUMB!

Answer 7

I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

Answer 8

If you were my daughter.. NO WAY!

Guys like that are fishy.. no matter what you think, don't be with him alone! Always make it a public place. There are way way way too many sickos out there.

It's weird... Just be careful, don't let him know where you live, don't tell him way personal things, altho you probably already have...

You need to watch yourself.

Tell someone about him.. a friend.

Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 9

If it were a woman it would bother me less I suppose. I just think there's something strange about it because it's such a large age gap in terms of life stages. You're in high school, and he's at an age where he is working and figuring out the next steps. Maybe you guys can just be platonic friends - I just wouldn't feel comfortable with it if I were your mother.

Answer 10

So I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 25... He's a Marine recruiter and the majority of his poolees (the kids he's recruited) are 16-20. If I found out he was hanging out with the younger kids socially I would find that awkward and probably end our relationship.

Its different when someone older than you is "hanging out" in a mentoring sense - maybe they're in a career field that interests you - but hanging out socially is not something I would be ok with if I was your parent.

Answer 11

there is no reason that a normal 26 year old should want to hang out with a 16 year old...so, either this man is not normal and you should stay away from him or he has ulterior motives and you should stay away from him...either way, stay away from him.  if your gut is telling you that you shouldn't introduce him to your friends, then you should take that as a sign that this is a bad situation and you shouldn't be seeing him at all.  it may not be sexual now, and it may never be sexual, but a 16 year old and a 26 year old have no right being friends.  later on in life a 10 year age difference isn't that big of a deal...because it is 2 adults interacting.  that's the difference.  for your safety, please stop this relationship - as a mother to be it makes me cringe and very scared for you to continue it.

Answer 12

I don't think there's anything wrong with that ... as long as it stays just friends :)  If it turns into something more in 3 years, I think that's ok too.

Answer 13

i think as long as things dont get sexual its okay