What do you think about adoption?

Question

i am adopted and i would just like to know what others thought about the subject? do u think its good? bad? stupid? TELL ME WHAT u THINK!

Answer 1

my husband and I have been together for 7 years now and it's looks as tho if we are to become parents we will be adopting... I think it can be a great option for all parties... I know that any child that would be a part of our family  (bio or adopted) would be very loved, by both of us.  I know that 'the system'  is not always kind or fair to the children and for that it breaks my heart... I long for the day that the child(children) we are meant to have can be the laughter echoing through the house, and everything else they and we long for in a family.  I don't know if I fully answered your question. But I hope so.

Answer 2

I think adoption is wonderful, expecially for a couple that cant have their own children.   Adopted children are really wanted and can have a wonderful like with their parents

Answer 3

I think adoption is good because it lets kids who have been abandoned or not wanted by their parents have hope and life again with someone who will (or should) treasure them forever.

Answer 4

I think it's an action of love. Somebody must have the feeling of love to take up the responsibility to love and care for a child.

Answer 5

I THINK ITS WONDERFUL!

Answer 6

I believe adoption is a good alternative to abortion.   However, the adoption experience on the part of the adoptee particularly those who are now adults has varying results.  Adoption today is much more controlled with many more screening processes to make sure families are stable at the time of adoption.  When I was adopted (cough, cough over 40 years ago) regulations weren't as strick and I have know of several that ended up in homes that wouldn't be considered now.  Overall I support adoption would like to see the system more open.  

Adoptee's should have access to biological medical information and background history at the very least.  We spend more in medical care and diagnosing than a biological child.  It's one thing to ignore your history but it's another to be told you have no right to it.  I believe all children should know the circumstances behind their adoption.  Reality can be hard but overall it's better to deal with than speculation.

Answer 7

Why would you ask such a question?  Of course its a good thing.  So many children don't have loving families.  Adoption is the only way to give these children the love and attention that they need.  If more people chose adoption, there would be fewer children in the foster system that end up getting "thrown away" by society.

You're very lucky to have people who wanted to make you part of their family.  I know you have many questions, but my advice to you is to be thankful that your parents let you into their hearts and in their family.

Answer 8

i am adopted by my dad, and i loved him always cause i knew he choose me! also i am adopting a baby girl 6months old here within a month so i think it's wonderful!!!!!!

you should feel special, that a mom and a dad wanted just you!

and i don't believe in abortion.

Answer 9

I think adoption is a great thing,because it is way for children to get the love they deserve.Adoption parents sometimes gives children opportunities that there biological parents were not able to give them.I think it is fab because children get some stability in there lives.adoption is also fab because it lets children realise when there older how much there adopted parents love them ,because they are children of thee hearts>adoption also gives child less couples the chance to have the love of a child of there own.So personally i am all for it and would love to adopt a child when i am older

Answer 10

I used to wish when I was a little girl that someone would come to my house and take me away from my mom and dad and make me theirs.

Or I would think that maybe I wasn't really my mom and dad's child that maybe they kidnapped me and someday my real parents would find me and take me home.

Or I would wish that a family member (never knew any of them because mother wouldn't allow it) of mine would find out where we lived and take me home with them and I would never have to see my mom and dad again.

I think sometimes adoption is better than living with ones biological parents if they are abusive and neglectful and maybe there are those of us who would have been allot better off never having known them to begin with.

I would have traded my real parents anyday for a loving mom or dad who would take care of me and protect me and give me a place to call home.

Even if a different mom or dad weren't perfect or near perfect I would still have been happy just to know I was loved.

So adoption can be a good thing and if your lucky enough to have been adopted into a loving home where they take good care of you then you are living the life I used to only dream about when I was a little girl and you are very lucky.

Good luck and best of wishes for you.

Answer 11

I think it is great.  I am the father of 3 adopted children.  They were all saved from abortion.  My 3 boys are the lights of life for my wife and me.

It is not perfect.  My oldest son has been diagnosed with dyslexia and my middle child has just had his legs operated on to cure his toe walking.  However, I would never trade these situations for the alternative.

Different situations beget different solutions.  We have an open adoption with the biological mother of my oldest son.  My middle son's bio-mom receives pictures and updates through a third party, as she wishes.  My youngest son's bio-mom has no real contact with him, although my wife has seen her several times, professionally.

In addition, we have the chance for another adoption before the end of the year.  That biological mom has requested a closed adoption, although she knows of our history, and may very well choose us.

Answer 12

Adoptions is the best answer to anyone who doesn't want or can't financially or mentally take care of a child!

Answer 13

Better alternative than abortion,  I wish  more people like your birth parents would use this option.  Every child deserves to be loved.

Answer 14

adoption is a truly wonderful thing. there is no difference between an adopted child and a bio child, IMO. i have a 16 month old "stepdaughter" and im her only mom... i also have a 3 month old son. there is NO difference in my feelings for them. they both annoy me equally- lol j/k i love them both the same and would do anythign for either one.

Answer 15

Adoption is a good thing,  when done right, it's life saving

Answer 16

I think adoption is wonderful

There are so many unwanted babies in the world and very few are lucky to find parents who will take them in.

Remember that adoptive parents are parents that really want children.. Count yourself lucky!

Answer 17

I'm a mother of three the third being placed for adoption at birth in 2003. I spent alot of time with the adoptive parents and love them so much. I know i made the right choice. Yes, i cry, i look at her pictures an reread the letters I recieve yearly(my choice).Someday she'll come back to me and God continues to prepare me for this day. I'm am confident she has the ut most care,love,protection,guidnace and nurturing possible. She'll have a life I would not have been able to give her with 2 other children I support solely on my mine. I have my angel wings!!!

Answer 18

As an adoptive mother, I can't say enough good things about adoption.  Through adoption, I was given the amazing opportunity to parent this absolutely incredible little girl who I love with every inch of my being.  

Loving this little girl so much also means I mourn for her losses; and in adoption there are inherent losses.  Friends and family often comment on how well my daughter transitioned from the orphanage; on how bright she is and how she escaped her early history with so little long term effects...but the fact is that her early history is a constant part of her.  I will never know what my daughter would have been had she not lost her birthmother, had she not spent seven months laying all alone in an orphanage.  She had lost so much, before I ever came into her life.

For her, adoption will mean coming to understand that the woman and man who gave her life were not able be her mommy and daddy.  It will mean, at times; being different when she wants more than anything to be the same as all her friends.  It will mean learning about the country she was born in from books and stories and movies rather than living there.  For her, adoption means not only having a loving home and extended family; but also coming to terms with her birthmother's decision despite having no information about where her birthmother is or why she made her decision.

At times I also mourn for my daughter's birthmother.  I watch my daughter playing in sprinklers, or catch the twinkle in her eye as she tries to pretend she didn't hear my directive to go to bed...and I wonder does her birthmom love water as much as Hannah does?  Did Hannah get her strong will and knack for being a charmer from her bm or her bf?  I wonder, if She thinks about her baby girl often?  If She wonders what happened to her?  What would She think if She knew she was in the US?  Would She approve of the job I was doing?  Of my discipline methods?  Would She think I was too hard on her just now or that I coddle her too much?

If we lived in a perfect world, all babies would be born to women who were prepared financially, physically, emotionally, mentally to be their mothers.  If we lived in a perfect world there would be no need for adoption...but as we don't live in a perfect world; adoption is an incredible way to build a family.  I adopted because I wanted to adopt a child that needed a home; not because of infertility or any other reason.  I wanted a child and adoption was always my first choice...and having never given birth I can't say if it is different or not; but I can say that I can't imagine loving anybody any more than I love Hannah.  I know that she was meant to be my daughter.  

The greatest experience, the one which shakes a soul

With hopes and fears, the results of which are never ending,

And incidentally, the one which pays the biggest dividends,

Is to be found in the adoption of children.

--- Anonymous

We witness a miracle every time a child enters into life.

But those who make their journey home across time & miles,

growing within the hearts of those who wait to love them,

are carried on the wings of destiny and placed among us

by God's very own hands.

--- Kristi Larson

Answer 19

I think it is a great thing.  There are a lot of wonderful people out there that can't have children, and people that can but can't take care of them.  A much better alternative than abortion.

Answer 20

its great

Answer 21

I think its wonderful...its so much better than abortion

Answer 22

I am a birthmom.  I placed my baby girl just two weeks ago today.  Adoption can be a touchy subject just as abortion is.  Some agree with it, some do not(why not, I have never been able to understand).  I placed my daughter because I could not afford a second child and I was just not ready for another infant.  I loved her.  I wanted to keep her.  But I knew there was no way I could give her all I wanted to give her and my older child.  She went to a wonderful couple who I know will love her and cherish her as much as I wanted to.  Many responses say as long as the baby is not aborted, it's good.  Oh, the parents did not want baby, so it is good.  That is only a small fraction of people.  Who could not want their baby?  I am pro-choice, but I knew that I could not do it when I found out I was pregnant.  If the couple who find themselves with a child that they know they cannot care for and love that child enough to want what is best, then adoption is a good thing if they do their research and find a wonderful couple.  I am glad such a thing exsists.  If not, my children would be destined to a life of two seperated parents who cannot stand each other (a father the new baby would never know since he hasn't even contacted his older child in months), a world where every day would be a day to day struggle wondering if I can pay for preschool for one or diapers for the other or food for us all, a possible lifetime of handouts.....That is no life.

Answer 23

A person who gives a baby up for adoption does it because she believes the baby will have a better life with its adoptive parents.  It isn't easy to give a baby up, and she'll likely spend the rest of her life wondering if she did the right thing, wondering if the baby went to a good home, wondering what the baby looks like and acts like and grows up to become.  People who want to have children but can't are blessed to receive such a gift, such a sacrifice from the birth mom.  So I think adoption is wonderful.  And I'm glad your mom chose the harder way, to go through with the pregnancy and the delivery and the pain of giving you up, instead of having an abortion.

Answer 24

I feel it gives a child a very good opportunity for a better life.If the biological parents can't take care of the child,than it is a good idea.At least they can have a loving family and life.I hope you had a great experience with your adoptive family.

Answer 25

I think its a very good thing. It shows parents who have adopted truly care for their child because they chose them out of everybody else and that they are caring people.Children are put up for adoption for a reason, and if they don't receive love and attention they may grow up to do some bad things because they think people don't care about them or how they turn out.

Answer 26

I think babies have different ways of finding their family and adoption is one of them.  I adopted my twins and I love them so much.  I have never felt like they weren't mine.  I have contact with the birth mother of my twins and she is very happy for them and so glad that she found them a happy home.  She was not able to care for them.  Why would it be bad or stupid?  The important thing is what you think, not what we all think.  BUT I think adoption is wonderful!

Answer 27

I believe adoption is wonderful for  the child and the parents that adopted.. ! I only wish my parents had given me up for adoption..  I have two children of my own now.. and know what it is like to love a child, my parents who gave birth to me..could never love a child.. they should have given me up to a family that could have loved me like their own. What a gift that would have been for all of us! I think adoption is a blessing... I hope to adopt one day.... I won't love them any different than my biological children..... I think you are special.. !

Answer 28

It is good as long as u were adopted by good people i was adopted also and had the best parents

Answer 29

Well, l think adoption is exactly the same as having a child any other way.  You get the good, the bad and the ugly!  Adoption is obviously a sensitive issue for anyone who experiences it personally, but if it's done for the right reasons, by the right people (as applies to ANYONE having children), then l think it is a truly wonderful thing.  Welcoming a new child into the family, and sharing your life with that child is always a miracle, however it happens.

Answer 30

I think adoption is wonderful.  It is the greatest gift in the world to a couple who could not have a child on there own. Obviously, I am a woman who adopted a baby boy who I love more than life itself. But my step father had a son who he adopted and he and my brother loved each other more than blood kin could. It takes a great act of love to give up a child to someone else. It takes a lot to admit that you can't take care of the child the way you think they should be. But it doesn't mean they didn't  love you. Every day that I look into the eyes of my now 3 year old son, I thank God every day for putting his hand on the birth mother and helping her choose me

Answer 31

I think you and your parents must feel very blessed.

My brother adopted his son,my best friend her son.

A parent is the one who loves you and cares for you,not the one giving birth.They are just the vessel.<><