What do you think about having child???

Question

im 22 feeling really broody. my best friend had a baby girl monday and shes amazing i really think id be a great mother but my boyfreind doesnt feel ready i understand his point of view and would push him into it but wat can i do to stop feeling like this??????????Help me please????????

Answer 1

Your clock is ticking, that's normal. Just remember that being pregnant, having a baby, raising a baby, is hard work. It's not all cute pleasant baby stuff. Being pregnant is HARD and takes a serious toll on your body and that baby is going to use up so much of you energy once it's born. You'll have poopy diapers, sleepless nights, crying for no reason at all that you can't stop.... And all that is made worse when you're a single parent because your boyfriend doesn't want a kid.

There was a great show on during the summer called Baby Borrowers - look it up. It was about teenagers who thought they were ready to have kids (they were mostly 18 years old). They put an infant with them for a few days, then a toddler, then a p*****n, then a teen, etc. After the show was over every single couple had broken up and they all decided they were definitely not ready for kids any time soon. Look it up. ;o)

Answer 2

You are feeling broody because your friend had a baby. Today is wednesday, by next monday your friend will be exhausted and if the baby does not eat she'll be stressed and this will go on for some time

Having a child is great but also great responsibility and tough job

Answer 3

It's natural to feel broody around your best friend's baby. Try babysitting a couple of toddlers for an afternoon and see how you feel then- you might find your just wanting that brand new, cuddly baby stage and cant handle the full on tantrums yet.

Dont make any rash decisions yet cos they'l affect the rest of your life

Answer 4

it understand able but having a child is so much responisblity and if hes not up for it then dont do it remember once you have a child with some one your stuck with that person for the rest of your life seeing them all the time unless he could care less about his child. im 18 and when i found out i was pregnant they slapped a ton of paper work in my face and a fat book. its over whelmin and from there on out your a mom forever. just be there for your friend for now and then consider about where you are in life and what you want to do be fore baby

remember that you dont get to see all the hard parts of raising a baby and pregnancy,

its fun playing and holding baby but then you get to give it back but when its yours its so much different

Answer 5

go get pissed, think of all the freedom and money you will lose in this endeavour.. can you REALLY afford to give this kid a good life and not rely on handouts??

Answer 6

well wait until he is ready and in the mean time love others babies and see what it is all about. i have three and everytime i hear of someone having a baby i want another one lol i am tring to get my husband to give me just one more. he laughs

Answer 7

It's not unusual to feel broody when a friend has a lovely child. Don't get sucked into the feeling if your partner isn't ready - "talking him into it" won't make him really want a child. Unless you AND he feel ready for an at least 17-year commitment, don't get pregnant. It's unfair to the child to not have both parents - yes, it happens, but it's better if bot parent are ready and willing to take on the burden and the joy.

In the meantime, just enjoy your friend's child - offer to babysit and give her some time off (she'll really appreciate it!), and use up your "broody" feelings by feeding & changing diapers. You may find that the downside of parenthood is something you're not ready to tackle quite yet with a partner not all excited about the thought.

Answer 8

Im in the same boat. I understand everything you are saying but have no advice.  

Answer 9

Do you mean you would NOT push him into it.  Because that would be wrong.

I think it is normal to feel broody when there is a new baby about, but you need to take a step back from the situation and find out why you are feeling like that and use your head rather than heart.

Answer 10

just dont have a baby until you are married trust me and if your bf doesnt want one maybe cuz he feels  you guys are to young to have a kid get married first then have as many babies you want  

Answer 11

im 23 and my fiance 24. im currently 29 weeks pregnant and soo happy. my boyfriends sister has a baby boy who is 16 months old and we mind him sometimes hes soo adorable. we both knew we were ready to have a baby and live together. good luck x

Answer 12

Even though I am really younq, I think that pregnancy is painful. I like adopting kids. Take a pregnancy test and see what happens.