What do you think about me doing...?

Question

i've had a lot of trouble in the past with my family. i was kicked out when i turned 17 and lived on a lot of my friends' bedroom floors. i occassionally see eye to eye with my family now but nothing is easy. as for my friends they've come and gone, some moved away, some had a fall out over us getting caught shoplifting. i have one very special friend but she's busy with her disertation and she has a lot of problems. she will be moving to london soon.

i have to pay all my rent and i'm very behind. i have depression but i have determination. i want to be a writer, i'm studying music technology at uni (national diploma) and after such a bad start to the year i'm very far behind and i may fail.

all i want to do is immigrate, move to france, get a little job, be alone and be inspired for music and literature by the beautiful scenery. i could have a new start and try and forget the past.

opinions would be most appreciated. thank you.

Answer 1

Stay at uni and get your degree. Your college degree will help you move to Paris, and you won't be struggling financially.

Then do what you want.

Answer 2

you don't get away from your problems by moving - they just move with you

I've seen a lot of people try a "fresh start" and unless they face up to their problems in the process and come to terms with them it rarely works

it's easier to face up to your difficulties when you have familiar places, systems and a support network so I would agree with the people who say stick out your degree, work hard and try and get good grades

and think about asking for some help - counseling or something - after all you've been through it could help - it's not a sign of weakness or failure to ask for help, it's a sign of strength and determination

Answer 3

I think your bills and money issues will catch up to you... however the euro being worth so much right now ( I saw this as I am in Europe at the moment) it would help you out just a little bit to maybe get caught up. best of luck to you... I have been down the debt road. I joined the Army and have been deployed 3 times (Iraq, Egypt and Germany) to get out of debt. it sucks and there is a huge weight on your shoulders but there are answers... you just have to search HARD for them.

Answer 4

You can't just run away from your problems.  They will still follow you where ever you go.  France is a great place to be, but it is not a land of fairy tales.   If you moved there you would still have to deal with your issues.  Bad credit is a global thing.

Get caught up with your bills.  Pay them.  You need to establish good credit for your self.  Read up on what it is you must do to establish credit.

I'm not saying don't go to France, in fact I reccomend it.  What I am saying is don't use going to France as a reason to run away.  In other words, go to France for the right reasons, not as a way to escape your responsibilities.  When you travel to foreign country, you want to have all your business taken care of.  

Since you are a student you can take advantage of exchange programs.  They will probably give you a better deal than trying to go on your own plus you can make progress in getting your degree.  Talk to the study abroud office in your school and see what you could get.  You could also sign up for a student work a broad program or an internship.  Maybe a little break is what you need.  See if you can get a program that will help you out in your field of interest.  Learning a foreign language is never a bad idea.  Travel will broaden your mind.  

In the mean time - join some french clubs in your area.  Go to itunes and down load french songs and pod casts.  Brush up on your language skills.

No more shop lifting.  Stay out of trouble.  Go to church and pray.  Ask God to help you.  

Good luck to you.

Answer 5

I say, why not? You can do what you feel is right and if this is right, go for it! Good Luck.

Answer 6

Music, literature and scenery may be inspiring but they don't pay the bills. Get a job and be inspired on you days off. Maybe being more responsible will make it easier to be around your family.There are many people who really have the determination to go to school and support themselves.

Answer 7

Unless you have saved a lot of money ans speak french, you should stay in USA. It's hard to find a job in France, even for french people, so...

You should try to find some americans living in Paris who can help you to move in.