What do you think about men having friends that are girls?

Question

Should the spouse be worried? What if they are girls he use to date? You think u have a happy marriage and then find this out! I try to be cool about it and not let it bother me but its like im here why does he need them i dont talk to guys for the simple fact i dont want him to worry. But he says i need to chill and not be jealous then makes me feel like a a*****e because i feel intimidated by these other females. I trust him completely and im confident in how i look etc to know he would be a dumbass to go anywhere. But I dont trust the females most are sneaky and shady and thats what worries me. Im sure there are some nice ones out there but to me if they are not willing to be your friend then they dont need to be his and visa vera any thoughts?

Answer 1

Go talk to the guys hun, see how your spouse likes them apples ! You have a right to be jealous.

Men & women's minds work differently, he sees it as innocent chat, you see it as a threat to your relationship as the women have been there before you & being a woman you know exactly how women's minds work & exactly how manipulative women can be.

It's a natural re-action hun, if my husband chatted to his ex gf then I wouldn't like it either.

Good Luck.X :-)

Answer 2

You obviously don't trust him. If he tells you nothing is going on, then believe him. You don't have the right to choose his friends. I have been married for 14 years and have many female friends. I was always the guy that they came to for advice. I think it is very healthy for both parties in a marriage to have friends of the opposite s*x. My best friend in the world is female. That being said, do you both socialize with his friends? Do you double date or have gatherings in a group? Try to be friends with the women also. You may be surprised that you find new friends also. Communication and trust in a relationship is the only way to make it work. Lighten up and have a good time with everyone.  

Answer 3

i think he would be having a wholesome personality. it takes lots to have more than one gfs. you should take this sportingly, and maintain yourself so that he does not stray.

Answer 4

I wish I knew the best answer for this. I feel like if he has you he doesnt need other woman (and like you I dont trust the others lol). I am going through the same thing but I am not married, pretty much though. I think if you are confident he isnt going to stray then dont push him. If you push him and say who he cant be friends with it will only make him mad and push him closer to her (personal experience). I think it depends on the individual and how to treat it. I let him have it and it got turned around on me.  

Answer 5

You should definitely be included.  If your husband loves you he should want to put your mind at ease and the way to do that is to include you in the conversations and in social lives together.  Then you can see the dynamics and if it is truly just friendship you will see that and can have the person as a friend too.  If your husband wants to have secret friendships with other women, especially his ex - it won't turn out well.  That just happened to me.  My husband had kept contact with his ex-girlfriend through our whole 15 year marriage and lied to me about it. We just split because he was having an affair with another woman but at the same time I found out he never gave up the relationship with his ex.  I don't know the dynamics of the ex friendship.  I don't know if they got saw each other or just talked on the phone or what, but I know that he lied to me for 15 years and I'll never be the joyful, thankful person I once was.  Everything is jaded now.  Try to figure out what is happening before it gets too late.

Answer 6

I believe everyone can have good friends of the opposite s*x & purely for friendship reasons, it is always better if couples share the same friends, it is only natural to have jealous feelings, even when you trust each other.

It also depends if they were always just friends or ex lovers, I would not tolerate this myself (unless there are children involved) for they should have moved on as he has.