What do you think about mothers that gives up custody of their kids?

Question

What do you think about mothers that gives up custody of their kids?

Answer 1

well at first it is sad bbut maby they did it for the right reason for the kid!=)

Answer 2

This is not a one answer question, each case is different.  What's best for the child is the most important issue.  I am in a position to see young girls pregnant with little or no support from family or boyfriend.  How are they to get an education and support that baby?  Most do not and they are beginning a very hard journey.  These young girls and women need support of all kind.  Don't be too quick to judge.  

Answer 3

They don't give a c**p about their kid, i'm just a kid and thats what i would think if my mom gave me up.

Answer 4

If it is in the best interest of the child, then I say "Kudos!"  It takes a really big person to realize that they cannot properly care for a child.  Just look at how many mothers are on welfare!  And they aren't all taking care of their children.  Many of them are simply sucking the government teat!

If a mother has a drug or alcohol problem and cannot or will not get help, then I think it is a wise decision for them to give up their parental rights...and it may be the only responsible thing she ever does.

I also think it is acceptable for a mother to terminate parental rights when she has adopted a child whose history was hidden from her.  A friend of mine and her husband adopted a child who had serious issues because he was born addicted to crack.  The adoption agency chose to hide his history and the possibility that he would have violent tendencies towards their natural children until after the adoption was completed and the family moved to another state.  The child was nearly uncontrollable and had what appeared to be "multiple personalities" although it was never identified as such.  This family couldn't determine what would set him off and neither could his counselors.  When her own children's safety was jeopardized, they opted to terminate their parental rights to the adopted child, much to their heartbreak.  In cases such as this, I think terminating is the best thing to do.

Of course, there are mothers who give up custody of their children because of abusive husbands who have so beaten them down and threatened them with death, that they simply cannot take it anymore.  Amazing how the courts fail to see the facts in cases such as this.

Besdies, look at how many mother have killed their own children.  Seems like more mothers have killed their own children than fathers.  This doesn't include fathers who have killed grown children, either.  I'm talking about young children.  Let's see....Andrea Yates: drown her 5 children in the bathtub, Diane Downs: shot her children;  Susan Smith: drown her children by rolling her car into a lake;  Melissa Drexler: delivered a baby in a bathroom and threw it in the trash so she could attend the prom; Dena Schlosser: cut her child's arms off and let the child bascially bleed to death; and LaShawn Harris: thres her children into the San Franciso Bay and let them drown.

Would have been better if there were no stigmas against a mother giving up her parental rights, huh.

Answer 5

maybe it's for a greater good...if the mom was heavily into drugs and was a prostitute and had to give up her kids so she could straighten herself out, then I have no problem with that. But if a mom just ditches her kids because she doesn't want them after she decided to carry them full term, then I think they're horrible people.

Answer 6

It all depends on why she gave them up.  Maybe it's for their best interest, she knows she is a bad Mother....in that case, she's a hero.  Or maybe she's just too immature to raise them and knows it.  Personally, I find it unthinkable, but Father's should have just as many rights to their kids as Mothers do, so who knows?  If your Mom gave you up and you're asking why, you need to be more specific about the details, but if you're thinking about giving up your kids, a blanket question like this doesn't work.  There are all kinds of reasons, some good, some not.

Answer 7

Well Iknow times are hard if you are a single parent but it shouldn't come to giving your children away there has to be a nother way to keep your kids to make ends meet.In my situation my kids stay with my mothe ,but she doesn't have custody ,She keeps them for me during the week and i get them on the week end because of my job and plus idon't have a car yet but they go to school and are well taken care of .They know I'm ther mother but my mother spends more time with them than I do. When I get a cor Hopfully things will change in my situation.

Answer 8

Sometimes it's the best thing for the kids, because some people make crappy parents...such as women who teach their children to call their grandmother a "*****" which according to your other question is what you did.  

Answer 9

Either the mother doesn't care to have a child... or maybe it's better for the child.  Maybe the mother is a drug addict, very poor, or is just overall, not a good mother... Those reasons are all valid reasons for giving up a child, and I would appreciate it if my mother gave me away if she was any of those things, because that's a rough life for a child to grow up in.