What do you think about my mom and dad?

Question

Well.....When I was younger I thought my mom and dad where happy together. Now I think my dad whants out.My dad always says how my mom is a bad person and she's stupid..And he tells me that Im not good enuff for him..I feel unwhanted I wish he would just leave are family he's only making everything so much worse.I whant my mom to stop crying I whant to stop crying....My dad just whants to get away He's almost never home and when he is..He's telling me how worthless my mom and I am.My mom works super hard and she gets real little.I've been in theripy and It is not working..My dad tells me he does'nt whant me talking about him at all..And he....I think he hates me.What can I do IDK how much longer I can take this..Im just Im just tierd Im done with it..What do you think?..Be honest

Answer 1

You tell him to leave or you are calling Child Protective Services for mental abuse

Answer 2

is he drunk when he says that?

if not, then it might be easy to confront him... when he says u r worthless just tell him 'what makes u think that?' and you'll see he has no reason. Then tell him to leave if he is not happy because he is also making you and your mum miserable. I dont know about your mum, but for what I read, i think she feels powerless in this situation so please make sure she feels supported by you. Tell her to ask your dad to leave or call a social worker.

If he has 'reasons' that make him think you are worthless, just tell him 'what do u think i can do to improve' --- and you'll see he won't have any real answer, that is because he doesnt know what is he saying, he has so much pain inside (probably caused by his own father) that he has to let it out with someone vulnerable (in this case you and your mum) . By no means I am justifying him, I just want you to understand him, that would be the best way for you to fight against him... show him how strong you are and how can you stand for yourself and your mum without recurring to violence or insults.

I had the same problem with my dad, when i was a teenager (and sometimes now I am 25) he used to say how useless I was, and compare me to my neighbours (who are a bunch of losers)... i always graduated first in my class and that was not enough for him... just coz i didnt show any aptitude in physical things (fixing cars, building, etc...) however i speak fluently 4 languages, got a masters degree... so when he needs help, e.g. translating a text  I do it gladly and then say 'you see dad...am not that useless, am I? ... or do u think I am useless coz i dont know to do what u can do? dont you think it would be unfair if i called u useless just because you cant speak english, frech, italian and spanish?"

remember, we cannot give something we dont have... if we only give insults, belittle others, etc its coz that is all we have inside: anger, frustration, inferiority complex...

good luck, i really hope you do well :)

Answer 3

ur dad don't likes u

or he may b tense due to some reason