What do you think about people getting engaged after one month!?

Question

A girl I know has never had a boyfriend in her life....shes kinda a social outcast.....and she's about 20 years old. She started dating a guy and after a month he proposed and gave her a big fat diamond! I couldn't believe it! Do things like this work out? I feel really bad for her because I think it's going to end in disaster! He is a very trashy, careless person, and I think she can do so much better because she is a very sweet girl!

Answer 1

i feel so sorry for her!i don`t think it is smart for her to mary him!

Answer 2

Who knows?  It might work, it might not.  There seems to be no 'rules' of common denominators as to what makes some marriages work and others fail.  I thought I was being smart by "waiting" until I was 35 to get married.  What I realized after a 2 year marriage is that I was too set in my ways to allow someone to come in and change things.  So, I think there is some merit to 'growing' together at a relatively young age.  However, dating someone for 1-month and asking you to marry them is, in just about every sense, foolish.  Consensus?  At LEAST get into pre-marriage counseling and set a very long engagement.  Time reveals everything...

Answer 3

I've seen "engagements" like this go down the toilet.

Just let it be. It's her life, and unfortunately you can't live it for her. Hopefully she'll realize her mistake before they get married. And if not, well, there's likely a messy divorce on the horizon for her.  

Answer 4

My parents did and 57 years later, they are still happily married and love each other deeply.  My husband asked me to marry him 1 month after we started dating and I asked him to wait.  But 7 months later we were married and still are 32 years later.  So yes, these things do work out.  

Answer 5

In my opinion if someone really feels they are in love, they are not going to listen to interventions. I've learned the hard way to let people live their own lives and be happy for them when they're happy, sad for them when they're sad, and never say I told you so!

Answer 6

It depends if they love each other. If they really love each other they should be fine. If they don't you have something to worry about. If you are that concerned talk to her and ask if she could wait a little while before making that kind of commitment. If they are not meant for each other it will show in the next few months.  

Answer 7

I think adults are capable of making their own decisions whether I agree with them or not.

Personally, I couldn't see getting engaged to someone after only knowing them a month but that is just me. However, my parents got engaged after two months and have been happily married for thirty years!

Answer 8

Disaster!!!

Answer 9

I think it's stupid regardless of the ages of the two people.

Those who get engaged that quickly and get married soon after and end up staying together are the rarity and they just happened to get lucky.  There is NO WAY you can know a person well enough after one month to get engaged or married.

Answer 10

ummm, i agree with you, but only because one month is waaaayyy too soon to be in love!

Answer 11

On rare occasions it does work. I would try to talk to her and see if you can talk her into a really  long engagement.  This way she will be able to see his true colors and have plenty of time to break up with him or  decide that he really is the one for her.  

Answer 12

OK first in no way is it something that I would do, but i agree with you.  My friend did that two they dated for like 2 months got in engaged and married 6 months later.  AND hes 20+ older then she is!!!!!! I was like dude seriously get someone your own age!!!! But I decided to tell her my piece of what I thought and told her from there I would support her.  They have been married for going on 4 years now. And have 2 kids now.  Now Lord only knows how long it will last, but, hopefully she will get know if its a mistake before she gets married.  I mean if worse comes to worse there is always divorce......

Answer 13

to be honest  it wouldn't work it sounds like she is lonely and just wants attention  even more if she has never dated anyone else kc

Answer 14

Is this social outcast your friend?Sound like there is a little jealousy going on. Why is it any of your business who she dates and get engaged to?And you never know her marriage will probably last longer then your..Get out of her business and worry about your own.

Answer 15

some people get married the night they meet.... does it last... more than likely not. i would atleast mention to her to wait a while to get married. that way she knows what she is getting into. marriage is a serious thing!!!! they are still in the honeymoon/ lust stage... it takes you a few years to really know somone!