What do you think about single and unmarried mother... ?

Question

by choice...

Answer 1

Matured?

I hate to know that actually theres a large sum of single and unmarried mother out there... My aunt, shes one of them.

Answer 2

By choice implies she has considered her circumstances and determined she is sufficiently affluent, competent and capable to raise a child.  She has presumably also determined that she doesn't know any men with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life.

I believe a mother's care and love is much more vital to a child's well-being than is that of a father.  And quite probably there are older male's in her extended family who are able to offer "protection and care".

This tacit approval is provided that the single, unmarried mother does not plan to immediately return to work and leave her child in the care of a maid.

It would undoubtedly be more difficult for a muslim woman to reach such a decision, and therefore her religious persuasion will have some considerable bearing on the situation.

Over the years I've met many.many "single mothers", their status having arisen from all sorts of circumstances.  But they have had this in common, they have been caring and courageous in the extreme.

Answer 3

Brave and beautiful

Answer 4

I pity them.

They are only taking themself into consideration in the equation - what the mother wants.  They are not considering the child's needs.  

A child needs a balanced upbringing.  They need two parents; and (if possible) an extended family of grandparents, etc.

Children are not puppies!  They're not some accessory to parade around.  If a woman can't find a life partner to share her life with... what gives her the right to inflict a solitary existence on a child?  Just because women can have children, doesn't necessarily mean they should.

Answer 5

pity their kids for not knowing what a father is

Answer 6

if she is responsible to her child then i admire her..

the irresponsible one that i scare the most..the one who neglects her child and only likes to have fun...

Answer 7

Personally I know several of them, some are the women & some are the kids brought up by single mums.

It's mainly, although may or may not be a combination of several reasons):

- father decided not to be responsible

- abusive father

- bad backgrounds e.g. gambling, drug addict, alcoholic father

- got mistress/another woman (some of these cases didn't even get divorce)

I think these women (not those as mentioned materialistic types mentioned by Bean) are rather sad, yet brave.

Because they financial mainly everything, gave full support, work & have to be mother & father to the kids.

As for those financially ok type of mum that just want to have a child of her own. That's her own choice. I do know several ladies that choose to adopt.

But those that just wanted a child from some very good genes or treat guys like sperm donators. Or just a child to fulfill the emotions. I find that rather twisted. Coz. sure the mum will try to control many things of the child. I actually save this documentary of it. The women in it, waah.. like d**n control man. Even before born, select best school, best outfit & say I want my child to be a doctor/engineer/professor etc. like "the father" (of the sperm).

Yeah true, nothing beats traditional papa mama parentage but sometimes if too difficult or things get so twisted there's no choice but to go solo.

Answer 8

It's their choice...  I am fine with that :)

*Peace*

Answer 9

i love the type mother.......so brave and cekal......

Answer 10

It's their personal choice. There's no right or wrong.

So people who wanna judge single mothers, and wanna tell them what's wrong and what's not, I only have one advice:

Go beat yourselves with slippers.

Answer 11

This is a new world after all, the is nothing ashamed about a single mother and it is common now

Answer 12

Selfish. Children need fathers.  

Answer 13

if these women are accepted,, definitely abortion cases will drastically reduce,, and more babies will have a better life instead of found dead or alive  in a drains or garbage can.

Being a mother is not a sin, its a noble thing.

If everyone is against this, will adolescent/people stop having s*x?

Answer 14

It is always preferable that a child have two parents in her/his life because that is the way God intended so that we could have the benefit of the lessons both can teach.  That said, if the unmarried mother is able and willing to take care of the child properly and if she is emotionally stable (not teaching the child to hate men, not physically, verbally or emotionally abusive), I think it is Ok.  There are still a lot of ifs because it is hard for a maladjusted mother to teach a boy many of the things he needs to become a man or a girl all that she needs to become a woman.  Boys and girls will benefit from lessons from the male point of view, as well as, those from a female point of view. Single mother's have been doing a very good job raising well rounded children who are a benefit to society.  A lot of our most influential and respected citizens come from single mother households, so I would never knock single and unmarried mothers.

Answer 15

There is nothing to think about cos they are human too, just that their life is not as normal as a family which consist of both parents.

I have a friend who chose to be a single mother. Talks seems unfruitful and decisions were made. The baby was born and she is trying to make things work, with work and home. Not easy...

Anyway, it takes a lot of courage to make such a decision.

@_@

Answer 16

she didn't do it on her own

unfortunately Malaysia is a muslim society so women can not get justice, he should pay for the child for the rest of his life

Answer 17

If the Father of the child is irresponsible, lazy and no plans for the future then better to be a single mother at all. I don't need a rock to hit my own head.

Answer 18

If it's to get a house and everything paid for by the government like a lot of teenage girls do in the UK then I think it's wrong.

However, there is a growing number of career minded women in their mid-thirties who never found the time for dating, love and marriage etc who have one night flings in the hope of getting pregnant.

These type of women are ok because they have thought long and hard about it and have the money to hire a nanny and send the child off for the best education available etc, but of course one cannot beat the traditional mother and father upbringing..    

Answer 19

very susah life and boring

Answer 20

nothing wrong..god bless them.

Answer 21

They r also human being. She has the great responsibility raising the child by herself. That's y govt and churches have this kind of ministry to help single/unmarried mothersby giving them mental support/financial/medical help. Many were disown by their family.  by all means give them job opportunities if they wanna work after that. Save a child's live is giving live! Where are the irresponsible men gone hiding? malu!

Answer 22

they brave and strong women...

Answer 23

They are courages............

Answer 24

Brave

Answer 25

NOTHING..IT'S COMMON..AS LONG AS SHE LOVES HER BABY AND RAISES HIM WITH GOOD MORALS TO BE A GOOD CITIZEN..MY MOTHER RAISED MY SISTERS AND ME ALL BY HERSELF. I LOVE HER!