What do you think about stay at home dads?

Question

Would you look down on a father who stays at home with the kids by choice because it's what he and his wife decided on? Why or why not?

Answer 1

in this day some woman can provide the bread and butter better than men can or things just work out better that way. i think if either of the parent can stay home with the child then its wonderful. i think that it is a little odd beings usually the mom is the house wife and the kids learn from that...men should be hard working ect but that is all the traditonal sence....im very traditional but many ppl arent these days. i think its fine!

Answer 2

No.  In fact, I think it's kinda sweet and s**y in a way.  I can't even get my hubby to spend a weekend with the boys if I need to get out or do something.  It's hard work doing what we, stay at home mommas do.  The more men that get out there and experience it, the less opinionated ****** men there are out there running their mouths about things they don't know.

Answer 3

I'd never look down on a man willing to be actively involved in their children's lives, even if that means he's a stay at home dad.  I believe that if he feels the desire to stay home and the wife is accepting of that then more power to him!  It's refreshing to see men like that with strong family ties and willing to do what few men would.  Kudos to you!

Answer 4

My neighbor down the street is a SAHD.  I don't think any less of him because of it.  I think it's fine.  I'm a SAHM so I understand perfectly about making decisions in the best interest of your family.  

Answer 5

it is unnatural and changes the natural dynamics of a relationship, even when the man returns to work, it remains a scar for the woman, and the man develops a chip on his shoulder

Answer 6

I would love to be able to go back to work and my husband see what its like to be a stay at home father. MOST kids are not close to their dads bc they are the working type and don't get to spend alot of time with their children. I don't look down on them at all. They deserve crdit for all they do and willing to put their male ego aside and stay home with the kids.  

Answer 7

i wouldn't look down on someone else at all. that would be great. now for ME,  iwould personally be pissed if my husband even suggested it. that is the goal i am trying to attain, so if he thought he was gonna jump the gun, forget it.

Answer 8

I was a SAHD for around three years when my kids were younger.  It's kind of wonderful, actually.  I took some flack from other men regarding being "PW," but I never let it bother me.  I was doin g what was right for my family, and I enjoyed it.  I love my job, too, mind you, but I sure am glad I was able to have a few years of day-to-day bonding with the kids.

Answer 9

I think whichever one of the parents wants to stay at home with the kids is great.  It's better than putting them into daycare.  You can't get those young, impressionable years back.  Thumbs up to you (for having the patience).

Answer 10

I think that men should have as much right to stay home and raise the kids as the women do! A lot of the time the women stay home instead because the men usually bring in more money. (Not in all situations though!!) I am a stay at home mom because my husband was making a h**l lot more than I was.

Answer 11

Let the thumbs down begin...I would assume a stay at home dad was lazy and didn't want to work and was being taken care of by his woman. Sorry, I think if anyone is going to be the stay at home it should be the woman and the man should be out taking care of his family.

Answer 12

whatever floats y'alls boats so long as it works for y'all.

Answer 13

Same as stay at home moms.

And no of course not, The only person that would look down on a SAHD is simply a sexist. If the woman has the higher earning job...why shouldn't the man stay at home with the children instead?

Answer 14

I wouldn't look down on them. Who ever said that the mother is the only person to stay at home? I don't think its a rule.

My neighbor is actually a stay at home dad and looks like he's doing a great job. Really, not only is he taking care of the kids, cleaning and cooking he is also looking after the house maintenance, gardening, etc.

Believe me, if we could, i'd find a job and have my hubby stay home. (love being a mommy and love my daughter, but its boring being at home all the time) . But we can't as i wouldn't make half of what my hubby makes. :(

But i think its great. :)

Answer 15

To be honest, I don't think of them as any different than stay - at - home moms.  I got to know quite a few of them through play group, story hour, and now preschool.  It's 2008, not 1940.  If a dad wants to be a full - time parent while his wife works outside the home, I say more power to him.  He IS supporting his family - by caring for his children and ensuring their development.  

Answer 16

no, i'm a stay-at-home mom and my hubby and i have considered switching roles because he would have better patience for it.  i'm more of a "business woman" by nature and being home with the kids bores the heck out of me.

there are a handful of stay-at-home dads in my daughter's preschool class and as far as i know, nobody thinks it's odd.

Answer 17

no i think that would be very ignorant and well, stupid if someone looked down on them..they are just like everyone else that stays at home i think it is kind of sexist to assume only the mom should stay home..and if it orks for their family then that is even more great

Answer 18

Absolutely not!  I think that that's great!  If the mom agrees to it and she makes more money or whatever the reason, then I think that that is great because let's face it, every kid loves a good, caring loving father!  My husband is one of those guys who would make a great stay at home dad.  He's just so nurturing and kind and loving towards our kids.  Which is wierd because he's this big tough tatooed Navy guy...lol.  But since he's in the Navy, I stay home with our kids...lol.  He would love to though I'm sure.  Anyways, keep it up Dad.  Every kid needs their dad in their lives (... contrary to popular belief...) your kids are lucky.  God bless!

Answer 19

I think that if it's a decision that both mother and father are happy with then that's fine. I personally would be proud of a man for feeling able to make that choice as it's not exactly the norm. I imagine that other men however may make fun of it as staying at home with the kids is perceived as a woman's job. What they don't realise is that the one at home with the kids is actually the one with the harder job and the ones who make fun would never cope if they had to do it.

It certainly wouldn't happen in my house, my husband would run a mile... but I can always dream.