What do you think about this couple?

Question

Woman is 24, in college. Comes from wealthy family. Most of her family members are college educated. Some are lawyers, dentists, engineers, ect. She is dating a 34yr. old man. Their relationship is quite mature. They have been dating for 7yrs+. He is not college educated and has been in trouble with the law previously but is a very warmhearted person....product of bad childhood circumstances. Her family is aware of this but he is very ambitious and now holds a good job. He is in hopes to start his own business very soon. Family does not approve of their relationship and she has resulted to not telling them about her continuance of their relationship. What do you think of this type of relationship? Is it at all common for people to marry someone of a complete opposite stature? Should they continue their relationship because they truly love eachother or should they be realistic about their differences? What do you think?

Answer 1

it's your life, who gives a s--- what others think.  however if her family is important to her and this will cause her pain then she might start to resent her man and this could lead to major unhappiness.

Answer 2

There is some missing information here. Is this man harmful to this young woman? What was he previously in trouble because of?

Most of the time, a family knows whats best for their family members. So maybe, have her take some time to review it from her family's point of view.  

Answer 3

no matter what,

if a woman and a man love eachother a lot, its a perfect relationship. thats all that matters. she can tell her parents to go f**t in someones face or something. they'll work things out.

Answer 4

Love knows no bounds, love is not technical - it is what it is.  If you really love each other, the differences will make you a better couple.  You will learn things from each other.  If you adopted a baby from a different country, they grew up in different surroundings from you - would you love it any less or love it because of the bond you'd have with that child?  Love is hard to find these days, opposite stature should not matter.

Answer 5

They say opposites attract. I wouldn't let what the family members say influence this couples relationship. They should continue their relationship because they truely love each other.  

Answer 6

If you both are committed to the partnership you can make it if so dedicated! It will be work on the part of both parties.

Answer 7

I think that they should continue their relationship regardless of what their family thinks.  If it is true love, they have to hold on to that, because it's possible that neither of them will ever find someone who means as much in their life.  Also, seven years is a long time.  Money should not be a problem.  I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and even if we were both broke I'd stick with him, as long as I was still happily in love with him.  Letting other people run your life is no way to live.

Answer 8

It would depend on what type of trouble he has had with the law.  Was it as a adult, or was he a teenager who made a bad choice.  What does he bring to the relationship, is the real question.  It would seem at 24 years old that the lady would be able to tell her family that she loves this man and he makes her very happy.  If she can't do this and she's that concerned with having her family's approval, then I can't see it ending well for either one of them. Money can't buy happiness.  Some of the most educated people I know have no common sense.  

Answer 9

sounds like you are talking about my relationship. Only difference is my family loves my fiance and we are only 6 years apart. (My fiance just turned 32, I'll be 26 soon) My fiance has a highschool diploma, while I have a college diploma but he has a job at the moment and I do not. He's had some small run ins with the law as well... and I have not. He didn't have the ideal childhood, I did but despite everything he is an amazing person. I think if love is there they definitely should continue the relationship! Who cares about the differences? They make life interesting!

Answer 10

I think that if they are both happy, and in a mature relationship they should keep going for it. Who cares what her family thinks, as long as they both love each other, and care for the other persons well being and dreams, i wish them the best of luck!

Opposites attract :)

Answer 11

Well sorry but no, I think people are better off dating equals.  They are happier.  If they get married, she might eventually feel like she could do better and will get resentful.  He might feel insecure and get resentful about always feeling like he's not good enough.  If he is a really great person in other ways, I guess that could make a difference.  But in ordinary circumstances, I don't see this working out in the long-run.  Sorry....