What do you think about this timing?

Question

When is a good time to move out. I will be 18 in november and done with school in december. I am graduating early from hs. I hate my home life and am tired to being my parents servant 24/7. I have been with my boyfriend and we plan on getting married in the next couple years, he is a year older than me, works full time and is making almost 30 dollars an hour, working 7, 12 hour shifts. So he makes good money, but i am a lifeguard making 8 dollars an hour, but i have my CNA so i am going to start working in a hospital soon.(making alot more money) But we both plan on putting in to an apartment, he said he wasn't rent and utilities and he wants me to buy food and anything else we need. What do you think about our situation? I would like to move out in december when i get out of hs. So what do you think, if you don't think its ok, then when do you think is?

I am planning on going to college to get my BS in Nursing.

Answer 1

Well ok I guess this can go two ways. I remember when I was 17 and how I felt about my parents and how badly I wanted to leave. However, now that I am a parent, I understand why they were the way they were and I appreciate it a lot more. This is a tough one. Although on one hand, it sounds like you have a plan, on the other hand, the plan could not work out. So where's plan B? Plan B could mean moving back to your parents house. Are they going to be as welcoming to their teenage daughter who thought she was grown enough to handle life on her own but now has to come groveling back? They might be a bit more supportive of a daughter who made a smarter choice to continue her education from home and move out when she is truly INDEPENDENTLY financially stable? If you ask me, it sounds like a lot is riding on your boyfriend's income right now. He might sound cool about that now, but what if your career plans get hung up or don't work out? He might not be so happy to be the financial backbone then. Things can change, always remember that. Being a young couple with a ton of responsibility can be very stressful. And are your parents that bad? Or do they just expect you to pull some weight around the house? I'm not trying to come down on you, all I'm saying is take time and think about the whole thing. It's not easy being grown. If your parents are willing to help support you beyond HS, let them. You'll be glad you did in the long run.