What do you think about this wedding?

Question

My father passed away a year ago and I want to get married but the thing is I want to get married on his birthday so that I can feel like he is a part of it. The date do not roll around on a saturday until 2017. We thought about going to the courthouse on that date and have the wedding the fallowing saturday. Is this wrong. I don't want to wait until 2017.

Answer 1

no matter what day you have the wedding, know your father will be there. you could always do a little arrangement of flowers at the altar or something in memory of him. if you really want to get married on his birthday, then do it in the courthouse that day and have the reception that weekend.

Answer 2

Who says that you have to get married on a saturday? I was married on a monday at 6 in the evening

Answer 3

Your dad's going to be with you no matter when, where, how you get married.  He's part of you, you carry his genes and his love and all the things he gave to you around inside of you always.  Get married when you want and he'll be there.  If it gives you a stronger connection, carry a little picture of your dad with you on your wedding day (maybe you can get a little locket, put his picture inside and pin it to your wedding gown inconspicuously).  On his birthday every year, toast his memory.

Answer 4

2017.  That is nine years (count 'em . . . 9 years!) away.  No one knows what will be happening in nine years.  The world could end before then.

One only needs a year to plan a wedding.  18 months at the very most.  

Your father's birthday comes around EVERY year.  Have an evening wedding on his actual birth date . . . in 2009 or 2010.  

If you are too young for that and must wait until 2017?  Don't start planning until 18 months or one year before the actual date.

In the meantime, you can dream and get ideas at the Knot.

http://theknot.com/

But don't make definite plans.  Everything you see now will probably be discontinued in nine years, LOL.  And all the styles will change.

Thanks for the laugh.  (o:

If this is serious and you truly want to honor your father, have an EVENING wedding . . . one wedding . . . on his birthday.

Answer 5

I like the courthouse idea. Or have it around the same date as is birthday and just make a note of honoring it during your honeymoon or whatever, so he can still be apart of it. Alternatively, what about other important dates in his life... his anniversary (if your parents weren't divorced) or perhaps how old he was as a date? i.e: 67: June 7.

Good luck. It's a great idea to include him in your ceremony even if he's no longer physically with you.

Answer 6

you're idea is great. go to the courthouse on his bday and have the ceremony on a sat.  

congrats!

Answer 7

You definitely do not need to get married on a Saturday, or a Friday or Sunday for the matter.  Any evening of the week you could have your wedding.  If you are set on this date, I would suggest to have a smaller wedding.  Only family and close friends and a small wedding party.  You could have the ceremony anywhere, and possibly have the reception at a restaurant.

Many reception venues are cheaper during the week as well, but having a wedding during the week you risk people not being able to attend.  BUT close family and friends will most certainly attend.

If doing this does not work for you, then instead choose a Fri, Sat or Sun close to the date you want.  Then honor your father with a special poem and/or dedication in your program.  (You could also have the poem read during the ceremony instead of a reading or in additional to any readings you choose.)  You can also display his picture at the reception.

Do what works best for you, but know that no matter what day you choose your dad will be with you and I am sure he will be proud of you.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Why not consider not having your wedding on a Saturday?  There are cheaper rates during the week, AND all the people that truly want to be there versus are coming for free food and alcohol will make the effort to come.

Answer 9

I think that that is the sweetest idea, and because of the personal significance to you, I would definately do it. Lots of people get married twice, and I think that there is nothing wrong with your reason at all!

Another option would be to pick your parents wedding anniversary, if it falls on a more convienent date.

Answer 10

Well, you know, you don't HAVE to get married on a Saturday just because everyone else does! Actually, middle of the week wedding can be alot easier to do, and less expensive, plus you would be surprised how many people will come (especially if its during a "high peak" wedding season). I don't feel you should have to wait until a Saturday to do it.

I do think its a great tribute to your father, but please, please let me caution you that doing a wedding on this date may have some emotions you and your family may not be prepared for due to the significance of the date.

Really, really think about it. If you choose not to do it on his birthday you can still have many things as a dedication to him.

Email me and we can go over some idea's if you like.

God bless.

Answer 11

Get married during the week on whatever date his birthday falls on.  Who cares whether everybody can come?  Alternately, have a courthouse marriage on his birthday and have the reception on the weekend.

Frankly, weddings are for the living, but if this date is important to you, then go for it.

Answer 12

Hi.  Please explain further.  I don't get it.  Maybe it's just me.

This year was leap year....so the next leap year is in 2012.  So, the dates for any birthday should go successively and then skip a day during the next leap year (2012).  

For example, my birthday is January 24, which was on a Thursday this year (2008), then NEXT time it is on a Thursday will be in 2013, which is only 5 years from now.  

The same should be for your dad's birthday.  Are you sure you looked at the calendars correctly?  It should only take 5 years at the most to move it to a Saturday.

And, why would you go to the courthouse on that date and then have the wedding on the following Saturday?  Why not just have THE wedding on his birthdate and skip the courthouse?  

In any case, I do think it would be a nice gesture to have it on your father's birthday, but I don't think you need to wait all the way until 2017 for it to fall on a Saturday.  That is 9 years from now!!

Answer 13

Excellent

Answer 14

no that's not wrong...that's the thing about Your wedding, do it whatever way you want and including your father in that way is great...you can still do your "ceremony/celebration" however you want.