What do you think...am I being paranoid?

Question

I have a long-time friend of the family who is going through a divorce. Her and her husband have been friends w/ my husband and his entire family for over 15 years. Her husband and my husband have even been friends since middle school (20+ years). Mid-July my husband went to the house of our friend who is getting divorced, at my sister-in-laws request, to help her w/ a few small things at her house as she was selling it the next week. I know my husband and this woman were there alone for a period of time...maybe an hour. I also saw two calls on his cell bill around this time. He called her and they talked for 3 minutes then it looks like she got another call and called him right back and they talked for 5 minutes...so 8 minutes total. These calls happened on a night that I was at work. There were also a couple other calls (3-4 over a course of the month) that were only a minute or two each. I never would think that anything would happen between them since they have known each other for so long and since my husband has been friends w/ her soon to be ex since they were teenagers. Trust me when I say that they have been good family friends for a long time. I should mention that my husband, my son and my in-laws also went to this woman's house to help her move, clean the barn, etc. and some of the calls were around that time. However, my husband and I were not getting along well this summer and it just makes me wonder if he didn't stray. I don't know if I am being paranoid, but the more I think about it, the more I don't like that he was alone w/ her at her house. I know he told me she was crying that night that he was there and he did give her a reassuring hug, but how do I know that's all it is? I should also mention that I KNOW that she has been going through a hard time w/ the divorce because her husband was hospitalized 2x this summer for mental health reasons. I know my hubby was probably just being supportive for her. However, I have heard several rumors over the years about this woman cheating on her husband. I think I am questioning it so much now because it is 3 years ago this weekend that I found out my husband was having an affair w/ someone...old memories coming up maybe?!? This woman that is getting the divorce is more of a pia than anything...both my husband and I have always said that. This woman also smokes which my hubby is anti-smoking. There are lots of reasons to think that nothing would have ever happened, but something is just making me wonder. Do you think I am just being paranoid. I have asked my hubby and he swears that nothing has happened w/ her...ever! I just found out about the 3 and 5 minute phone calls this morning when I paid the cell bill, but I haven't said anything about it yet. Any advice? Thanks

Answer 1

thats not alot to go on 3 and 5 minute calls she may just needed to know something or just to say hello ask him about the calls and see what he has to say dont let your fears get the best of you

Answer 2

I think that the reason that you are thinking this is because your husband has strayed in the past and you have heard rumors about her straying too.I would just lay low for awhile and keep watching the cell phone bill and watching to see if he leaves at certain times of the day,then confront him if you start to see an ongoing pattern.I think right now you are just jumping the gun,give it more time,keep your eyes and ears open.

Answer 3

My advice: Your question is tooooooo long. I lost interest after the first few sentences.

Answer 4

Dont say anything more.I think there is nothing more apart from your suspicions.Mind works wonders  if you start exploring.Trust your husband and trust God.

Answer 5

My God, if I thought my husband was cheating every time I saw my sister-in-laws number on the cell bill I'd be a mess.  

Answer 6

i say listen to your gut. if someone hasn't happened (which it doesn't sound like it has) make sure it doesn't. tell him that you don't feel comfortable with him being alone with her again.