What do you think he's thinking about?

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I would appreciate it if you took a look at it

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I don't know what to do and it's killing me :'[.

Answer 1

Look, this is all such a been there done that situation for me, I'm not getting watery like all these other girls. I'm a cynic about this, so if you're afraid, then don't read on.

I recently read this book by the authors of the television series s*x and the City "He's Just Not That Into You". And I gotta say, that's what might be happening here. Certainly his kidney situation doesn't affect his fingers or vocal cords right? You're showing all the symptoms of being completely heartbroken after 4 days and he's ok with it to a point where he doesn't try to contact you again? Sure, we could give him the benefit of the doubt. But its been 3 months, hasn't it? Look around, ask around. The guy did a disappearing act on you. No warning, no notice. This is actually one of the chapters. If the guy disappears on you, he's just not that into you.

I had the same situation. Except I was the one who disappeared. It got to be too much. He called me three times a day. We were moving too fast. There were moments where I could believe that what we had was so magical and beautiful and the perfect thing. But I was on Cloud 9. But then I landed back on earth. And I found that I needed some time to think to myself. He asked me for a serious commitment and I wasn't ready. I took a week off. No contact, no messages, no calls, no emails. And it just stayed that way. We made our peace later on but I did the disappearing act because I wasn't that into him. He was into me but I wasn't into him. So that's how the story ends.

You're 13. You won't always wait for this guy. I can't say you're too mature from that impression. One day, you'll get over him. You're 13, you're touching on the borders of love. It's your first heartbreak. It hurts. But believe me, you get over it. I felt the exact same once too. I spoke of dying for him because that's exactly how I felt. But 10 years later on, you realize that you forgot to wait for him and you never kept the promise to love him forever. Things don't always work out when you're young. You're just a baby in the world of relationships. Stop waiting, what's the point of being miserable? He's not making as much of an effort as you are. He's Just Not That Into You.