What do you think if I have a baby?

Question

I am 19 this year, in a relationship with this 25 year old guy for 6 years. (yes since when I was 13 and my first love) he's working as an engineer now, quite stable and seems to have much prospect in this, while i am still a uni student. We are so much in love with each other, always thinking of our future and all those. He's now having home loan, yes our future home to be. We are not married yet but always have the thought of to get a baby although all the while we're having protected s*x and never cheat!

Am I too young to have a baby since I am still studying? Any advices for us? thx :)

Answer 1

talk to ur bf ...does he want a baby now? if he does then yeah a baby would make ur relation even more beautiful

Answer 2

Well, I wouldn't say you are too young.

I'm 19. 20 in August, and my bf is 25. We have a 6 month old daughter.

ust kno wthat a baby changes EVERYTHING!

Answer 3

Well I would advise not... Even if you love each other dearly .... It would be better if you guys get entirely settled by not compromising your love.... Its tempting to see all other people having a happy family and you too hope for a one...But you must assess that whether both of you are financially and emotionally stable to have that baby.... Its great that you have such a caring lover and I m sure that he can wait for a little more time before you take the plunge.... Till then enjoy life as much as you can ....

BTW its cute to hear that you had him when you were 13 year old.... hmmmmm..... puppy love I suppose....:p

Answer 4

t will be hard for you to take care of the baby as your husband has a full-time job (I assume) and your studying full-time (I assume), unless you can afford to send your baby into daycare (and I don't think you can do that until they are a certain age), besides, you may not be able to go to uni for the last couple of months of pregnancy..

Maybe finish your degree first, and then have a baby, and you can stay home for the first couple of months before sending it to daycare and going out to work yourself (since bills need to be paid..).

Otherwise if you are decided on having the baby now, make sure you have someone (your mum, grandma etc.) that can help you take care of the baby throughout the day etc.

Goodluck!

I am not sure but i think this answer is the BEST

Answer 5

I have no doubt you're in love! 6yrs together is FANTASTIC! :-)

My advice is to wait a while before you have children. I have firneds who thought they were ready to have kids at 19...& although they LOVE their children now, they hav regrets of the youth they feel they've lost.

Just remember, a baby is a FULL TIME responsibilty. You can't even leave the house without half hour or more preparation...& babies cost tens of thousands of dollars a year alone...without all your other living expenses (Mortgages, petrol & groceries aren't cheap).

Please think this through...19 is so young...so much fun to have before having a baby :-)

Answer 6

U went out with a 20 year old when you were 13?

Do you have any parents at all... jw?

I would seriously wait and just reconsider what your getting yourself into

Answer 7

I have a friend who just had a baby at age 19. While their situation is quite different than yours, it is definitely not easy on either the mother or father. Personally, with all the attention you need to devote to the baby, I would recommend finishing school before having a child. Even if you were to get married and be financially stable, going to school and taking care of a baby is very tiring. You want to enjoy the time with your child and not dread it. Thats my two cents. Good luck with your life =]

Answer 8

I think that your relationship sounds stable, however, I just had a baby with my husband of 2 years, I'm 26 years old, and sometimes I feel like I'M too young!  I don't know if there is an age, but I do think you should wait until your married.  Not because of like religious or societal reasons, just because I think you'll enjoy it more.  Maybe get engaged and plan a wedding and have all that fun first, then start trying to get pregnant.  I don't think being in college has anything to do with it, I just think everything will feel more right and be more fun to you both if you do things in the traditional order.

Answer 9

i had my first child at 20 ( got pregnant at 19) and have never regreted  for a second!!!! my children are the best thing to happen to me and i would be lost without them.I like the fact that i am still young so i have loads of enery to run round after them all day !! i took them to a theme park a few weeks ago and had just as much fun on the rides as them rather than standing on the sideline just watching. I would consider finishing uni forst tho so that you have qualifications to fall back on when you want to go work after raising your children .

Answer 10

I think that just depends on you and your boyfriend. I think the both of you should sit down and talk about it to each other. Weigh all the pros and cons. A baby is alot. Are you sure you want to be pregnant and still be a student? Would you like to be married b4 you get pregnant? Just some general questions for you to think about. Having a baby is a big decision. You have to look at all possible scenarios. Do you have enough money, stable home, money to raise the baby, medical insurance, daycare costs and if you are going to be married. Sounds like you two are on the right path just make sure that is what you are really ready for. Good luck!

Answer 11

A lot of people can't have children when they are TRYING to have...I don't think you are too young but if you're really into a good future I'd at least try to wait until you have time for a baby without cutting into your studies.  Some people say they'll go back to school when the baby is grown and never do or end up pregnant again.  The two of you really outta make that decision, I mean would someone be there to watch it while he works and you studied?  Do you have the money to afford a baby (they cost a lot what with diapers, toys, a crib, medical bills.)  I always say if something is meant to happen it'll happen :)

Answer 12

I wouldn't say you are to young, but I think you should concentrate on your future first.  Get your schooling completed and then go from there.  Get Married first, no need to rush into anything like having a baby.  

Good Luck!

Answer 13

This is totally my opinion. Finish up your education and get you a good stable career behind you. I know that this is "the love of your life" but take in to consideration that you were 13 when you met him. He is all you've ever known. Has he had previous relationship or are you the only woman he has been in a relationship with? Enjoy your college years, the partying the freedom( outside of studying). Because once you have a child you can never get that back. It becomes all about baby. And babies are very expensive, there will be no more COACH purses it will be diaper bags, no more date nights, you'll have to have money to pay the baby sitter plus monthly childcare fees which for a newborn run anywhere from 550-650 a monthly. Take your time sweetheart. You and your boyfriend continue to enjoy each other . And you get your degree. Then you can talk marriage and baby. Don't rush.

Answer 14

It will be hard for you to take care of the baby as your husband has a full-time job (I assume) and your studying full-time (I assume), unless you can afford to send your baby into daycare (and I don't think you can do that until they are a certain age), besides, you may not be able to go to uni for the last couple of months of pregnancy..

Maybe finish your degree first, and then have a baby, and you can stay home for the first couple of months before sending it to daycare and going out to work yourself (since bills need to be paid..).

Otherwise if you are decided on having the baby now, make sure you have someone (your mum, grandma etc.) that can help you take care of the baby throughout the day etc.

Goodluck!

Answer 15

Wait til you finish uni first trust me. My hubby is an engineer too and I had the baby before starting uni and trust me its hard looking after a toddler AND studying (and now Im pregnant again so I will be taking a year off uni next year). Seriously, Just wait til you finish, it will be so much better and less stressful

Answer 16

A psychological experiment on children found, that those capable of foregoing immediate gratification for delayed rewards, fare considerably better in their later life. I guess this principle applies to you too! You appear to be doing quite well on this score so far. Sooooooo Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 17

finish school first then baby good luck

Answer 18

well i think you should wait. even though you are obviously with this guy and in love, enjoy life first! experience it through and adults eyes before you take on that kind of responsibility - trust me its alot of work thats worth the wait =)

Answer 19

I really think that you should finish up with school before having your baby.  Once you have your sweet baby, it will be 10 times harder to want to do anything else that takes alot of your attention and energy.  Other than your schooling though, as far as age, I really don't think you are too young, as long as you have your act together and in a good strong relationship, and it sounds like you do, so I wish you the best, I think you'll be a great mom:)

Answer 20

You aren't too young to have a baby, but I would recommend finishing university. I didn't finish, and I so wish I did. Now I am left with a big uni debt, and no degree, and I don't have enough spare time to go back, until my daughter is at least in school. If I were you, I would concentrate more on getting married before you have a child, a wedding is a short-term event to organise, and can be done around a uni timetable, whereas a baby is full-on for years to come.

I think a wedding is a far better choice if you are concerned for your future.

All the best.

Answer 21

maybe yes maybe not ? you decide ^_~

Answer 22

Have babies later, party while your young and FREE!!!!!

Answer 23

i think you should wait you still a bit too young and times now are getting harder you might not be able to deal with it at such a young age.

Answer 24

basically the only person who can answer this question is yourself hun.

you need to ask yourself, is he the one you want to spend the rest of your life with?

Are you finantially stable to bring up a baby, coz its d**n hard.

do you put havin a baby before yourself, getting your career on track and making money, and going out and having dun while you can.

do you want to have a baby now, or live our life while your young, and put the baby on hold for a while. even if its no for long, make sure YOU and your husbands life is right on track first and this subsequently lowers the likeliness of you two breaking up etc in the long run and the baby would have a better life too...

sorry its long :P hehe

good luck and i hope everything works out perfect.

xx

Answer 25

There's a lot you can say about this.

I personally...don't think 19 is too young, but others might feel that way.

I think you should get married first, for numerous reasons...it's the next step..just jumping in and having a baby would be too big of a step...and you could trip and fall.

Your love life changes when you get married whether you think it will or not.

I'd test the waters by getting married first before I'd have children.

Answer 26

I'm 20 weeks pregnant and I've recently had to give up uni. For me, it's not a problem. I can go back part-time next year. Our pregnancy was unplanned but I'm happy to put things on hold for a bit. Had we actually thought about it, we would have waited until much later but now we're glad we didn't wait. It's TOTALLY up to you and what you think you can manage!