What do you think is a good age difference to start on your next kid?

Question

My daughter will be 2 in October and I'm thinking of having another. What do you guys think?

Answer 1

my sister and I are 3 years apart and we have nothing going on thats in common.. I would have them closer my mom had my 2 sisters 1 year apart and so they are like twins and do everyth8ng together where im pretty much doing my own thing.. I want to have two close in age.. like as soon as one is outta dipers il have another.

Answer 2

My mom's had 11 kids now and she says she's found about 18 months to be the best spacing between us kids. That's looking at it more in light of how the children will develop as siblings. With the 18 mo. gap, the children's interests will probably revolve around the same general things (obviously every child is unique, but most young girls are interested in girly things for instance). They'll be at a similar mental and emotional development. Their physical development will be close enough to the same that there won't be awkward division (my sister, Becca, and I were best friends, but were distanced quite a bit as I physically matured before her and that closeness is only now being rebuilt as she's getting older). Also, though there will be a lot of similarites, there's the benefit of their unique differences and the older siblings can definitely help out the younger ones because they'll be that much older and have experienced enough to share with their brothers and sisters.

Here are the ages of my siblings and myself:

Charles - 19

Me - 18

Becca - 15

Katie - 13

Emily - 11

Joe and Jake - 9 (almost 10)

Minda - 7

Luke - 5

John - 3 (Almost 4)

Benjamin - 7 1/2 months

I get along best with my sister Becca, mostly because we have a lot in common and shared a room for years, so we grew close. I'm getting married in September and I guess with the prospect of me moving out and my sisters just growing up, Becca and Katie have grown closer and there's about a year and a half between them. They get along well so long as Katie isn't moody (which she is a lot just because of puberty).

The twins are close, but that's generally a given in that case. Luke and John (about 2 years apart) do spend a lot of time together as well. That's not a bad age difference either...not too close and not too far apart.

I personally don't intend to try to space my children out or anything. I'll have them as the Lord gives them to me, no matter how many or few, how far apart or close together. I've learned that no matter what the situation, problem, or decision...it's best to give it all to Jesus and leave your worries in His hands. If He blesses you with a child, He'll surely help you raise him or her if you are willing to seek Him out and rely on His wisdom, guidance, and instruction.

Sorry this is so long. I hope it helps in some way.

May the Lord bless you and yours, however many that is in the end. :)

Answer 3

My son is 2y 5m old .. at the end of August early September we're going to start trying for number 2. I think it will be absolutely perfect for us.

Answer 4

different people think different but it is better to have them close togetther mine are 3 and 1/2 the second is now 16 month's and my third is due any day now it has it's hard day's but at least they get to grow up together and have more in common also when it comes to your own life you get everything over with all the same time like sleepless night's for examples I can't imange having one in school and starting all over again with a newborn.

my advice have another now good luck

Answer 5

My kids are 12 9 and 4 I think the best age would be 3 or 4 years old.

Answer 6

Mine are 4 years apart. The good thing about that spacing is that the oldest is more independent, secure, and doesn't need the kind of constant attention a younger child would. Also, this way you'll only have 1 kid in college at a time.

Answer 7

for me my second child was born when my oldest was 20 months. I liked that age because they are very close. But I also said I would have another kids when the last one was potty trained. I did that. My middle child and my youngest are 4 years apart. I get more sleep this time around. I am paying for only one child in diapers and I also have two helpers. I like my kids spaced out, but I also like my oldest two close together.

I think it's up to each person and when they feel the "clock" ticking.

Answer 8

I think you should start before she turns 4. You don't want a gap in between their ages. The sooner the better. It will be hard but better for you in the long run.

Answer 9

My husband and I are thinking of having another child soon.  Our oldest is almost 1.  Which would make the two (if I get pregnant soon) between 1 1/2 and 2 years apart. Then we want to wait a few years (3 or 4) for the next one, then have a couple closer together again.  That's our dream, we'll see if reality works that way! I think you have to wait until you are ready, and no one can tell you what's right for you.

Answer 10

well my son is nearly 15 and i am having a baby thats a big age gap but he can't wait i would say have another baby when you are ready only you will know when the time is right.

Answer 11

its fine go for it

Answer 12

I had my second when my first was 4...it has worked out perfectly.!!!! Have fuN!!!!

Answer 13

well me and my sister are only 13 months apart

so i think now would be a good time

my sisters 16 im 15 my other 2 sisters are 12 and 7