What do you think is he cheating or just bored with me?

Question

My husband has always had p**n around i don't care as long as he doesn't hide it. But he would rather be looking at that and being with himself than with me. I always make myself available (I like s*x) and I have enjoyed it with him. I just don't like that when the kids are in bed and I am trying to be with him he pushes me aside. When I go to bed he gets online (i have caught him.) I have also found out he has profiles on several dating sites along looking but married and for women in our area. When i say I want a divorce he says he still loves me. I think we are more like friends. Do you think he's cheating?

Answer 1

Oh yeah.  I've met your husband.  He sometimes replies to some of my answers with the standard, "I'm married, but our marriage is loveless, we don't have s*x, we're only together for the kids, I think you're great and would really like to meet you so I can smell your hair".

I can't believe you're actually married to one of those pathetic losers.  Pity.

Answer 2

He is searching hun, meaning that he is either bored with you, or getting there,and is looking for other ways to excite himself which usually leads to cheating.That's what always happens when a woman allows her man to watch p**n, watching p**n never results into anything positive, it always leads to worse and worse results, trust me, haven't you read most of the posts that's posted on here about women hurting over there men/husband's that's watching p**n, they either substitute them for the p**n, or they end up cheating on them, either way its no good, so i suggest that you have a serious talk with him, and seek counselling to get help in his addiction fast!

Answer 3

Yes, he is cheating!

If he is looking - I am sure he has found himself some "play mates"...

Why are you tolerating this? There are so many dangers out there with HIV, AIDS and STD's...

You deserve better.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I can't say for sure if he is cheating, but I think that there is definitely something wrong when a man would rather be by himself with his computer screen than with you. It certainly doesn't make you feel attractive or have high self-esteem - your husband should make you feel better about yourself and your body; not worse or unwanted.

You need to have a talk with him. If he can't give it up then it could be an addiction.  

Answer 5

he's cheating

Answer 6

Lol

Um yeah

If you are married and he is searching for other women then yeah.

You was just shocked.

Now that the truth is in front of you you have options

confront him

counseling

work it out

heart to heart

divorce

separation

kicking him out

whatever

He is fornicating against your marriage.

I dont know why women think it is okay for p**n to be in the relationship. The male will just fantasize about the woman when they are with you or stop having s*x with their wives.

This is in the bible also if you search for it.

Answer 7

It sounds like you guys probably really should not be with each other.  He may be just telling you that because he needs you for security.  You really need to express yourself and let him know that him looking at p**n and dating sites is not fufilling your needs.

Answer 8

I think he has grown comfortable with his lifestyle and really does not care about your feelings.  I think it is time for you to sit him down and tell him what is going to happen.  If he does not want a divorce, and he does not want to take care of your sexual needs, then you are going to go out and find someone who will take care of you.  You never know, this may excite him to the point of needing s*x with you at that instance.  You can continue this with him by starting your own dating/s*x site and you both can brows the replies.  Sometime couples s*x lives lose the spark, this will enhance it for you both.  It may come to the point of you actually bringing in a young man into your bedroom while your husband watches, since it appears that he has voyeuristic tendencies.  Good luck and have fun.

Answer 9

definitely yes. marriage should be a give and take relationship. be open to one another. if this is messing there is something wrong.

Answer 10

I think he just likes a variety. I love my girlfriend for 6yrs.now but, I look at pornos all the time. Being kinky like doing a strip tease of wearing lingerie usually works.

Answer 11

i don't understand women sometimes, they think its so Normal and Okay for men to look at p**n while having a relationship. just becuase they are watching it from the screen is no different then the p**n girls being there with him. do you women understand that men are LUSTING after OTHER women? its just like saying "okay i love you but i have other needs, i like variety and you're not enough." you have let him get use to p**n so much that he's forgotten all about you. YOU and only you should have been enough for him, but if men can't let that c**p go, they shouldnt get married at all. they can't have it both ways.

go ahead and divorce him, he doesnt seem so into the commitment.

Answer 12

I think you should hit yourself very hard in the face to sort yourself out.

This man does not love you, does not want s*x with you, would rather get off over p**n sites and is trying to cheat on you with people locally.

Erm divorce springs straight to mind.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 13

It sounds like he is cheating.

Answer 14

He may not be cheating but he is looking. Something is wrong here. For him to push you aside and instead to on websites where he can view other women must feel hurtful to you. How insensitive of him. My belief is that these men get an image of what a girl should look like and after a while it gets to be that is all he can get sexually excited too. You need to look into why he has no sexual interest in you. Is there something in the relationship with him that has caused him to be resentful and angry at you? Has your apprearance changed to the point he no longer finds you attractive? Either way, he sounds cruel to just push you aside. I would not take it.  

Answer 15

listen to happy!  His cheating

Answer 16

Well I'm not going to fault him for the p**n thing.. Lots of guys like the p**n.  But, if he's on dating sites looking for women he's either cheating, or wants to.  p**n is one thing because it's mostly fantasizing about intangible women.  But trying to meet a real one crosses the line.

Answer 17

Yes, I do, even if it is on-line, it is still cheating, I had the same problem and I think they get addicted to the internet and dating sites, and no matter what you do they will find a way to carry on. Get yourself a good keylogger on your computer, the one I can recomend is sspro.You can set it so that he does not know it is there, but be prepared for what you might find out, it probably won't be pretty. I have been married a long time, but what I found shocked me and takes a lot to do that to me these days. The only other advice I can give is cut the lead on his computer. That should stop him, for a while anyway. But in the end it is up to you, do you love him enough to put all this behind you and move on, if not all the conselling in the world won't work. I hope you sort this out sweetheart, it is going to be hard. Good luck, I will be thinking of you.

Answer 18

The profiles on the dating sites show that he is at least looking to cheat and may already have.   That is completely different than just looking at p**n; he is actually likely having conversations with women thinking he is available to date.  If he is curious enough to post a profile then he is going to be curious enough to eventually meet one of the women he chats to in person.    In my opinion it sounds like he is both bored and looking to cheat.

Answer 19

When I go to bed he gets on-line (i have caught him.) I have also found out he has profiles on several dating sites along looking but married and for women in our area.

So let me give you this analogy. You walk outside to your car and see a man in a mask with a crowbar prying open the locked door of the vehicle.

You ask him what he's doing and he say "Hey..I love your taste in automobiles".

Get my drift sweetie? If he's made the effort to set up accounts at these sites he'll follow through once he gets a nibble on the line.

Answer 20

OK AS A MARRIED PERSON  I DON'T BELIEVE IN p**n THAT'S MY OPINION.   BUT THE FACT THAT HE HAS SET UP PROFILES ON THESE SITES MEANS HE IS LOOKING, THE CHANCES ARE HE HAS ALREADY MET SOMEONE.  

Answer 21

he might not be cheating but ( this is just an opinion) when guys are constantly looking at girls who are not normal ( super big b***s and small wastes tons of make up and are like s*x gods and can go all night and take it anyway ) they get caught up in the fantasy of all that and when normal you ( i don't mean that rude you are probably beautiful just not fake like p**n girls ) comes along you don't turn him on anymore because he programmed his brain to those girls as far as the dating sites go i caught my husband on those and he told me you get better p**n when you go on those sites because people will send it to you i actually saw alot of it so i believe him but i know that is probably not always the case . you need to talk to him and get to the bottom of it before you make yourself crazy maybe you need to draw a line on the p**n thing good luck  

Answer 22

He is LOOKING you better spice things upppppp......Talk to him and see what his fantasies are and and maybe make some a reality;-)

Hes looking at p**n because he has a fantasy that is not being fulfilled  

Answer 23

divorce that loser! if a man truly loves you, satisfied w/ you, he wont turn to p**n!!!

mr. brightside: if guys like pron it's ok? Sheeessh!!!!