What do you think makes someone a good mother/father?

Question

You hear people talk about others as 'really good mothers/fathers' but what criteria would YOU use to judge whether someone was a good mother/father?

Answer 1

My criteria for a good mother/father is when a mother/father can be both a mother and a father at the same time.

Answer 2

i think a good mother/father is someone that cares about other peoples feelings and have faith in there kids E.G if a dad seizes cause there kid is fat that he wouldent make a good sport player

Answer 3

for me, being good parents is reflected on their child. if their children have respect to other  people, love to their family then they were raised by good parents.

based on my experience, ican see kids who are spoiled by not behaving properly-hitting their siblings or somebody - but  they dont hear anything from their parents to correct them.

Answer 4

I think a bad parent is one who gives their child everything they want. Just for the quiet life, thus raising a "spoilt brat". The child will never learn to appreciate the value of things

Answer 5

Just caring and loving for thier child. Some people go so overboard, or think they have to be perfect.  I just do what I need to do.  Feed, wash, play with and love my child. lol

Answer 6

maturity and loving , key aspects for any mother or father .

Answer 7

Hmmm. Thats difficult to say as so many people raise their children differently, have different boundaries and ideas about right or wrong. Being a parent isn't so black or white. I know I am certainly not a perfect parent! I've had my bad days as well as good.

I feel like I am doing a good job mostly and that is reflected in my daughter, by the things she does and the way she behaves. I never believed in cry-it-out and try to listen to her and respond to her needs (and explain why she can't always have the things she wants) and I guess, in a way, I treat her as an equal and with respect as a person not just as a child.

Answer 8

The good parents are the ones that take care of their children and act responsibly. They pay attention to their kids and want to spend time with them. They are involved with their kids even when it's not convenient. They make sure their kids have good foods to eat, clothes to wear, and don't always give in to them. The parents are in charge and accept that responsibility. They work on teaching their children the skills they will need as adults. They love, respect, and listen to their children but it doesn't mean the children get everything they want whenever they want it. They have real relationships with them, not false ones. They offer their children a sense of security and stability. They geniunely want them around.

It's not difficult. It just means stepping up to the plate. Parents are human beings that are bound to make mistakes. It's ok to admit it and try to do better. But so many parents can't seem to admit that. I don't understand. It's not teaching your kids something valuable. It's ok to make mistakes. It will happen. Just try to do your best to correct them. Acknowledge them. Apologize.

Answer 9

Patience

Answer 10

Someone who teaches their child the principles of living and lets the child make the actual decisions

e.g.  I taught my daughter at a very young age that if one of her toys got broken, it wouldn't be replaced until I was sure she could look after the new one.  This made her decide who could be trusted with it and what she could (and couldn't do) with it.

Answer 11

Love. Care. Respect. Really you shouldn't be hitting and doing violent stuff to your kids. ANd you should respect your kids point of view. And you shouldn't be COMPARING your kids with other kids. Always love then and be sure not to hurt their feelings.

Hope this helps.

Answer 12

love , care , and respect others opinions.

Answer 13

For me, it is a parent who knows what is best for that child (not just now, but in the future as well)  and does their best to prepare them for life in a nuturing, loving and caring way.

For me this means preparing them to be a happy (contented), responsible, well-rounded, caring, hardworking, considerate, educated, diciplined and independent person who will make a good student, employee, spouse, friend, citizen, parent, etc. in the future. It takes a lot of love, a lot of patience, a lot of dicipline and a lot of hard work but it pays off!

Answer 14

respectful... loving.. caring... encouraging...

so much more.. but those are the most important for me..

Answer 15

someone who understands their child,

shows them love, respect

Gives them plenty of positive praise when needed and discipline when needed also!

dont let your child get away with murder as this will inevitabley result in you having a spoily brat for a child who thinks they can have anything they want too

also warmth, comfort, food, water and a home to nurture them and grow

Answer 16

we have 2 children, a boy and a girl. some people (usually those with badly behaved kids) have said how lucky we are to have well behaved kids. luck has nothing to do with it. you have to put the time in. you should discipline and love them equally. but discipline should never go as far as beating them. the most our two have ever had is a smack on the bottom, but most of the time they are sent in the corner or to bed. you should also make sure your kids know they are loved. spend plenty of time with them playing and taking them to the park or playing in the garden. i know of too many "parents" who spend all their time on the internet, one of which spends every waking moment on blo0dy chat rooms and she has 4 kids and never spends time with them. get the balance right and they should turn out fine.

Answer 17

Loving caring being there when they need help or you to guide them in the right direction, be there to listen to them if they need to talk, finding the time to help them if they find things tough ..