What do you think of a.....?

Question

16 nearly 17 year old girl and a 17 nearly 18 year old boy who have been together a year and a half not married or engaged what do you think of them having a child together

(yes my life)

Answer 1

A year !

Have you lived together ?

Believe me you do not really know a person until you have lived with them for a while ..wait and live together until you decide on having children !

Answer 2

as long as your in a secure relationship, and can support yourselves then all good.

was it planned though ?!?!?!

Answer 3

wait a bit and finish all your school and everything. get a job and then have a baby. You would then have a decent job and qualifications.

Answer 4

too young! give it time. if you love each other enough to get married, do that and give it time to see if this works out first. if it does then of course do it. but if not, there is no need to drag an innocent baby into this, and its not fun taking care of one by yourself, trust me i know.

Answer 5

DON'T DO IT until you are secure in your relationship and finacially stable. I had my first child at 18, my second child at 21 with a guy that I thought loved me and was going to take care of us finacially and so on. He turned out to be the biggest liar and cheater I have ever met. We never got married, was struggling finacially, and he has not seen our kids now in 4 years. I am now happily married, finacially stable,and my husband is wanting to adopt my two older kids, and my husband and I have one together.

Not saying that your bf is like my ex, but just make sure that he is Mr. Right!! Lots of luck to you and him.

Answer 6

I would say..... "what's the rush" ?????

Enjoy your time together while you are both young................do all the things you want to do before you start thinking about having babies........ enjoy going on holidays together (just the both of you).

Because when that baby comes along it changes your life forever !!!

Enjoy your life first !!!!

Answer 7

I don't think people (of any age) who haven't made a permanent committment to each other should be making a 21 year committment to a kid.

Sweatpea, if he doesn't love you enough to give his entire life to you, he doesn't deserve access to your intimate parts:  body, mind or soul.  Those are for your husband and you owe it to him to keep them pure.

Plus technecally in a few months it will be statatory.  If your daddy is vicious he can have it prosecuted.

Answer 8

Its a mistake but its their choice, they have plenty time to have kids, they should be enjoying life.

Answer 9

I think it'll be a huge mistake

You're still a child yourself and have your whole life in front on you

You haven't even experienced the going out part yet with your friends!

I'm not one of these people that say you should be married before you have a child but you should at least have a stable job

or better still a career

I had my son at 19, even at that age it was hard

He's 2 now and I wouldn't change him for world but I do wish I'd waited

Answer 10

If you're planning on getting pregnant right now, then I think you should wait. You may not think so, but you're going to be a totally different person in 2,3, even 4 years from now. You will grow and mature in all aspects. I'd wait until you're a bit older. Having a child is the ultimate change and you should enjoy your teenage/early adulthood years. I waited until I was 24 to have my first child and that was the best decision I ever made. Now, if you're already pregnant, then I say congrats and good luck. It's not the best decision, but as long as you make the best of it, you'll be just fine.

Answer 11

planning it - no.

wait till you have a job, a home etc.

if its already happened - yes.

mistakes will be made and if you are already pregnant and choose to keep it, then it will be hard but im sure you'll make it.

Answer 12

It would depend on your financial situation as well as the stability of the relationship.

Babies cost a lot of money.

Also the stress of lack of sleep and having to care for a child puts massive pressure on a relationship - you would have to be sure that you were mature enough to handle it.

If you are considering a child why not get married first to see if you can work as a team (day in day out)

Answer 13

I'd say do you really know what you're getting yourself into? Is your relationship stable, or are you hoping a baby will bring you together?

I don't mean to be patronizing, but it's so easy to be naive about having a child at your age. Are you aware of how financially stable you'll need to be and do you know how much pressure a child will put on you and your relationship? Being a parent is a full time role, it takes up all of your energy. It's hard to be a parent at any age for the first time, but everything is harder when you are still only a teenager. Essentially, you will have another person's life depending on you - that's a lot of responsibility. There will be hard choices to make and sacrifices on your part. It's not easy and although you might think every thing's fine at the moment, a baby could change all that. You need to ask yourself if you really are ready, don't use a baby to bring a relationship together or to make people take you more seriously. It will take your 100% and more, you can't bring up a child half-heartedly.

I'm not trying to say it's wrong, it depends on your situation. But I'd strongly advise against it until you've thought through absolutely everything and are absolutely sure. You see, when my first son was born, I was seventeen and my girlfriend was sixteen. Before I became a parent I was so naive and when he was finally born, all the responsibility hit me. I was an immature heroin addict with no job and no home of my own. Our relationship was far from stable, the closest we got was going out partying together and we constantly argued. A baby was the last thing we needed and two weeks after birth, his Mother left. She couldn't cope, she was too young and far too selfish to have a baby. I can't say I was any better, but I got the help to get clean and become a good Dad. Even when I got older, it was difficult having to face things as a young adult that others wouldn't have to. It's hard to be looked down on and to cope with difficult times when you're only young yourself. I recently lost my eldest to leukemia, the most horrible thing I've ever been through. I'm a 20 y/o Dad preparing to bury his own son when most my age are out clubbing and meeting new people. I don't for a second feel sorry for myself, or wish I'd done things differently. But I wish I could've been more prepared at least.

Just think about it, it's really easy to get yourself into something without thinking and it will become a lot harder than it has to be.