What do you think of egg sharing?

Question

My husband and I have had 3 unsuccessful attempts at IUI. We have one IUI left which we are going through at the moment and then we have one try of IVF on the NHS. My consultant has mentioned egg sharing whereby I give my eggs to a couple who cannot produce healthy eggs and they pay for my IVF treatment. What do you think about this? I may not even need to go privately but just wanted everyone's views on the subject incase I am put in that position. Thanks in advance x

Answer 1

I think only those who are in the same situation as you can comment on this, I think if people are desperate enough for a child they will do anything to get that and it shouldn't matter to you what anyone else thinks, its your life and your body, negative comments will only get you down

Good luck in whatever decision you choose

Answer 2

personally its not something i would be able to do.

If their ivf was successful and the other lady ended up giving birth to what is biologically your child, and you and your husband ended up childless then for me this would cause even more upset than having to take a huge loan out to pay for the ivf myself.

Ivf is very expensive i know but i would sooner, remortgage my home or sell my wedding ring and car to pay for the child i longed for.

it might sound selfish but this is my honest opinion.

good luck in what ever decision you make and i truly hope you end up with a child of your own.

Answer 3

yeh it sounds good, id trying anything if there was a good chance it would work :)

Answer 4

hi there,

Ive been ttc for years as well and on clomid at the min (and iui is our next step then 1 ivf go on nhs)

personally i think egg sharing is a very personal thing to weather you'd do it or not, the bit i would be bothered about is that if it didn't work for me but it did for them, that would kill me, but if it worked for both of us then I'd be delighted I'd helped someone Else's dream come true as well as my own.

i have been told you don't have to know the results of the other couple, and you only find out if you ask, so i guess that helps a little.

i don't really think everyone on here understands fully how much infertility can hurt, unless you've been touched by it yourself you can't really have a clue.

i wish you all the luck in the world xx

Answer 5

I think that it is a very unselfish and great thing to do, it's only an added bonus that they pay for it.  BUT, I am not sure what I would do if god forbid the IVF didn't work for me, but it did for them- it would kill me.  I would hope there would be a contingency where they could only have your eggs if your procedure worked- that may sound selfish, I don't know.  I know the pain of an unsuccessful IUI and I hope that this month is your month!  Good Luck!!!