What do you think of people?

Question

Who scrutinize everything you do? Completely judgemental and only towards you? If you do a bad job they are on it, if you do a good job they will find something bad about it. Every little thing you say they feel the need to judge.

What do you think about that? What do you think their motive is for that?

Answer 1

Having experienced this first hand:

First off - I think it is wrong and damages relationships on all levels.

Second -  I think the cause is circumstantial - by that I mean the person doing the judging feels that they have been unfairly burdened somehow.  For example - if this is your step-mom, she may feel that your parents failed to raise you properly and now she is bearing the consequense of their actions.  

If this person is reasonable and intelligent, they should respond positively to an honest and mature conversation about how you feel. But be prepared to have an honest introspection into your behavior as well.  Do you feel you are truly doing your best?  It's easy to put a chip on your shoulder and blame everyone else for your problems.  It takes a lot of maturity to step up and admit that you have some faults and need to improve in some areas.

Best of luck  

Answer 2

they have low self esteem and can´t feel good about themselves unless they make someone else feel bad. it can affect you of course but keep what i said in mind and it can make it a bit easier to not pay any mind to their bitter words

Answer 3

I think they are insecure with themselves, and I don't pay much attention to what they think about the things I do. I base my decisions on myself, not on others' feelings.

Answer 4

I believe people who do that think very little of themselves. They belittle others in an attempt to feel superior. They have low self-esteem and very little self- worth. These kind of people can't be allowed to break you because that's the one thing that would give them satisfaction. You know who you are, what you're about and no one else has the right to judge you.  

Answer 5

Motivation?  Control.

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Answer 6

I used to be the same way, my reason for doing this to people was because I was always very unhappy..and it made me feel better to find the bad in other people. It's toxic to surround yourself with negative people, they just want to always be on top.

i know i've changed.  

Answer 7

Is this about your mother-in-law?

Answer 8

I would think that I couldn't please that person no matter what I did so I'd quit trying.

Answer 9

Insecurity within themselves.

Cut people like this out of your life.  They only bring you down to try and build themselves up.

Answer 10

Could be resentment, wanting attention, feeling that what they do goes un noticed, maybe the person feels neglected.  Usually comes out as anger when really they may be just hurt, always feeling one step below you.  Especially women as some women feel more in competition with a man rather than getting the approval from a man as an equal.

Answer 11

Insensitive remarks come from the infamous gang of fear- disrespect, disregard, demeaning and disappointment

Answer 12

That's what we call a Boss. Nobody likes their boss.

Answer 13

Thats abuse. You will never be happy. Leave ASAP

Answer 14

jealousy, underpowered by u,  jealousy, someone u dont need in your life, jealousy, n o yeah did i mention jealous of ur life, of you or of something or someone u possess...

Answer 15

they prob. do it because they are jealous of you in some way...they feel they have to put you down and find ur flaws b/c they are fighting with themselves to compare to you...i cant stand ppl like that...but they are everywhere and you have to take it with a grain of sand and turn it into a positive...you know you are better than them and they are mad cuz they know it too!

Answer 16

sounds like my mother.  what do i think her motive is?  im not her biological daughter, and she resents me for things that i have that my sister (her daughter) does not have.  it is usually jealousy, in my opinion

Answer 17

Self importance,,,, They have to make themselves feel that they are better then others,,  If this person is not in a position to hurt you at work then just tell them to back off or do the jobs them self,,, If this is a supervisor, have a talk with them and ask them just what do they expect from you and what are the standards or guide lines that you can use    Instead of taking it and keeping you mouth closed, stand up for your self and get clarification from this person about what their problem with you is,,,,,,,,   If it is a family member tell them to do it their self or leave you alone so you can get it done...... The key to this situation is  Do Not get angry and don't use offensive language when confronting this person........ Good Luck  

Answer 18

I think they lead really sad lives, and have nothing better to do than to put someone else down. Sadly, the older i get, I find there are more and more people like that..